What Is a Porn Addiction?

[CLAX1911]

There was some study referenced by one of my instructors in college about a chicken in a box. The box had a button. If the chicken pecked the button, food dropped out of chute into a dish.

The chickens would randomly peck around the box and eventually would peck the button again. The food would drop again. The chickens would continue the random pecking and once again hit the button.

When the button was hit randomly enough times delivering food, every chicken would eventually learn that pecking the button rendered food. They would then peck the button exclusively and eat happily.

The researchers would then turn off the food and the chickens would continue to peck the button for a ridiculous number of times before they learned that no food would be delivered as a result.

There is a lesson in this for party loyalists but I just can't seem to put my finger on it.

Anyway, the reward for engineered behavior was the key idea presented by the instructor. Striving to get the reward, whatever the source, is the path of the addict.

Actually that's classical conditioning it's something we all do. With certain drugs you have a chemical dependency not just a psychological one.

 

[calamity]

Good porn, both video & text, is highly attractive & obviously addictive. The hottest erogenous zone is between your ears.

A trick I've learned over the years is to focus on a particular sexual experience or someone while drifting off to sleep. Most of the time, I will end up in a partial dream about it. This usually works best during naps, since the sleep is not very deep and waking up in the middle of it is more likely--hence the memory is retained.

At my age, this tends to be a very enjoyable experience because in those dreams I am always young, as are my various partners. I've even managed to successfully engage with people I remember from 30 or 40 years ago, experiencing it as if it were real and time reversed itself to when it was 30 or 40 years ago. Now, that is some erotic shit. Blows porn away.

 

[Phys251]

Well the release of serotonin or dopamine can be similar to that cases by a substance. But because you aren't putting anything into yourself

Not necessarily.

 

[JacksinPA]

A trick I've learned over the years is to focus on a particular sexual experience or someone while drifting off to sleep. Most of the time, I will end up in a partial dream about it. This usually works best during naps, since the sleep is not very deep and waking up in the middle of it is more likely--hence the memory is retained.

At my age, this tends to be a very enjoyable experience because in those dreams I am always young, as are my various partners. I've even managed to successfully engage with people I remember from 30 or 40 years ago, experiencing it as if it were real and time reversed itself to when it was 30 or 40 years ago. Now, that is some erotic shit. Blows porn away.

I spent several years as a bachelor between marriages & had a number of sexual encounters while traveling. I'll take your advice & try focusing on specific experiences that were notable for their intensity. One woman asked me to do anal on her & I did. It was such an intense orgasm that my knees shook for hours after. And she really enjoyed herself in the process.

Watching porn brings back memories of erotic experiences I've had. There is nothing hotter than watching a woman who you are about to have sex with take off her clothes in front of you. Or remembering what a woman's sex tastes like on your tongue.

 

[calamity]

I spent several years as a bachelor between marriages & had a number of sexual encounters while traveling. I'll take your advice & try focusing on specific experiences that were notable for their intensity. One woman asked me to do anal on her & I did. It was such an intense orgasm that my knees shook for hours after. And she really enjoyed herself in the process.

Watching porn brings back memories of erotic experiences I've had. There is nothing hotter than watching a woman who you are about to have sex with take off her clothes in front of you. Or remembering what a woman's sex tastes like on your tongue.

In this day and age, it is far safer to think about random sex than actually engaging in it. Hell, being married now, and really-really liking the person who I am married to, I wouldn't stick my guy into any strange, regardless how hot she looks at the moment. But, there are a thousand other ways to experience erotica.

Two years ago, during a road trip while drinking and flirting a bit at the bar, an extremely attractive woman in her 30's lifted her shirt and asked me to rub her flat tummy. As you can see, I still remember the moment. Another time, a super-sexy lady rubbed my head and began running her fingers through my hair, mumbling some drunken nonsense about silver foxes. Man, that is the shit I live for nowadays.

Oh, and cheesesteaks. I live for cheesesteak sandwiches. They are a special treat, like once a month or so.

 

[JacksinPA]

In this day and age, it is far safer to think about random sex than actually engaging in it. Hell, being married now, and really-really liking the person who I am married to, I wouldn't stick my guy into any strange, regardless how hot she looks at the moment. But, there are a thousand other ways to experience erotica.

Two years ago, during a road trip while drinking and flirting a bit at the bar, an extremely attractive woman in her 30's lifted her shirt and asked me to rub her flat tummy. As you can see, I still remember the moment. Another time, a super-sexy lady rubbed my head and began running her fingers through my hair, mumbling some drunken nonsense about silver foxes. Man, that is the shit I live for nowadays.

Oh, and cheesesteaks. I live for cheesesteak sandwiches. They are a special treat, like once a month or so.

I think the days of the random one night stand are over for most of us. Too risky with covid. I'm home most of the time & so is my wife, so any deviation would be obvious.

 

[calamity]

I think the days of the random one night stand are over for most of us. Too risky with covid. I'm home most of the time & so is my wife, so any deviation would be obvious.

Check out the scene on the Tik Toc attachment to the tweet below. It's harmless, but there is something incredibly erotic about it.

Lara Trump Boss Lady

Watching her apply the make-up, seeing her flex in that tight-fitting red dress while figuratively stepping on Eric's throat is probably ten times hotter than any porn I've watched in years.

 

[JacksinPA]

Check out the scene on the Tik Toc attachment to the tweet below. It's harmless, but there is something incredibly erotic about it.

Lara Trump Boss Lady

Watching her apply the make-up, seeing her stretch in that tight-fitting red dress while figuratively stepping on Eric's throat is probably ten times hotter than any porn I've watched in years.

The other thing about porn that helps my recall is the noises that women make during the act of sex. The less inhibited & more vocal the better.

 

[CLAX1911]

Not necessarily.

Lol good point.

 

[Dayton3]

The hottest erogenous zone is between your ears.

What are you? A Labrador Retriever?

 

[Dayton3]

The other thing about porn that helps my recall is the noises that women make during the act of sex. The less inhibited & more vocal the better.

You like hearing them scream NO!!!?

 

[maquiscat]

You like hearing them scream NO!!!?

If that's what floats their boat and there is a workable safe word, I'm not going to complain.

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[TypicalRussian]

I've heard that the porn industry creates a cash flow to support the exploitation of various folks "employed" to create the porn.

Taking away the porn eliminates the cash flow and thereby the exploitation.

yes ban porn

 

[Dayton3]

If that's what floats their boat and there is a workable safe word, I'm not going to complain.

In the world I was raised in "no" IS the "safe word".

 

[maquiscat]

In the world I was raised in "no" IS the "safe word".

Doesn't work so well when you want to be able to say "no" and have it ignored. For some of us it's because we can't more than that out of the sentence "no don't stop" before losing our words again.

 

[Dayton3]

Doesn't work so well when you want to be able to say "no" and have it ignored. For some of us it's because we can't more than that out of the sentence "no don't stop" before losing our words again.

That makes no sense whatsoever.

 

[maquiscat]

That makes no sense whatsoever.

Without having experienced it, I doubt that you could comprehend it, but there can be a cathartic release in the "inability" to refuse. It is similar to the thrill one gets from roller coasters, base jumping or other high risk activities, or seeming high risk, even if you know there is a safety release should you feel it has gone too far.

Rape fantasies and forced sex fantasies are highly common, among both men and women, as both victim and assailant, the roles mixed.

45.8% of men in a 1980 study reported fantasizing during heterosexual intercourse about "a scene where [they had] the impression of being raped by a woman" (3.2% often and 42.6% sometimes), 44.7% of scenes where a seduced woman "pretends resisting" and 33% of raping a woman. - Crépault, Claude; Couture, Marcel (December 1980). "Men's erotic fantasies". Archives of Sexual Behavior. Berlin, Germany: Springer Science + Business Media. 9 (6): 565–81. doi:10.1007/BF01542159. PMID 7458662.

When you have men and women who share such fantasies, you need a method by which to indicate that the scene needs to stop, and that the protests are real and not part of the scene. And they are usually for things not related to the fantasy. There are plenty of people out there that want to be able to say "no" during sex and other activities, and have it ignored. Hence the safe word.

 

[code1211]

Actually that's classical conditioning it's something we all do. With certain drugs you have a chemical dependency not just a psychological one.

With smoking, there was a chemical aspect to the addiction, but the addiction was far more psychological than chemical.

The "need" I felt was far more situational than one rising from the physical depletion of a chemical in my system. I was very capable of sleeping through the night without smoking.

Stress, happiness, boredom and about anything else was the trigger for wanting to smoke a cigarette. There were physical impacts, but the psychological/situational things initiated the physical.

I started smoking when I perceived that smoking made me look cool. I stopped smoking when I perceived that smoking made me look stupid and dirty.

 

[code1211]

yes ban porn

I believe that would be a violation of the 1st Amendment.

 

[calamity]

I believe that would be a violation of the 1st Amendment.

Not to mention ruin the sex lives of millions of people who can't get enough of seeing other people screwing on their little screens.

 

[calamity]

Without having experienced it, I doubt that you could comprehend it, but there can be a cathartic release in the "inability" to refuse. It is similar to the thrill one gets from roller coasters, base jumping or other high risk activities, or seeming high risk, even if you know there is a safety release should you feel it has gone too far.

Rape fantasies and forced sex fantasies are highly common, among both men and women, as both victim and assailant, the roles mixed.

45.8% of men in a 1980 study reported fantasizing during heterosexual intercourse about "a scene where [they had] the impression of being raped by a woman" (3.2% often and 42.6% sometimes), 44.7% of scenes where a seduced woman "pretends resisting" and 33% of raping a woman. - Crépault, Claude; Couture, Marcel (December 1980). "Men's erotic fantasies". Archives of Sexual Behavior. Berlin, Germany: Springer Science + Business Media. 9 (6): 565–81. doi:10.1007/BF01542159. PMID 7458662.

When you have men and women who share such fantasies, you need a method by which to indicate that the scene needs to stop, and that the protests are real and not part of the scene. And they are usually for things not related to the fantasy. There are plenty of people out there that want to be able to say "no" during sex and other activities, and have it ignored. Hence the safe word.

Yup...people can agree that "no" does not mean no, but saying "Zebra" does..

 

[maquiscat]

Yup...people can agree that "no" does not mean no, but saying "Zebra" does..

Look up Lucy Lawless and safeword. ROFL

 

[CLAX1911]

With smoking, there was a chemical aspect to the addiction, but the addiction was far more psychological than chemical.

The "need" I felt was far more situational than one rising from the physical depletion of a chemical in my system. I was very capable of sleeping through the night without smoking.

Stress, happiness, boredom and about anything else was the trigger for wanting to smoke a cigarette. There were physical impacts, but the psychological/situational things initiated the physical.

I started smoking when I perceived that smoking made me look cool. I stopped smoking when I perceived that smoking made me look stupid and dirty.

I agree with smoking it's for more psychological than chemical dependence. But that chemical dependence is there. About a week you're over the chemical dependence though.

 

[JacksinPA]

I agree with smoking it's for more psychological than chemical dependence. But that chemical dependence is there. About a week you're over the chemical dependence though.

Traveling on business while single gave me a number of opportunities to scratch my testosterone itch.

I was staying at a hotel in Durham, NC. In the bar sat the late sportscaster Howard Cosell who was in town to cover a Duke basketball game. He had lived in the same town in NY as I did while in HS & had gone to school on the same bus as his daughter Jill. I went over & introduced myself & told him about knowing Jill & he was very pleased, telling me that she had given him grand kids. Back at my table, a beautiful woman came over & said to me 'What's your room number?' Back in my room, an hour later & she's knocking on my room door. She had been a Broadway dancer & former mistress to a famous choreographer. We had our moment & she spent the night with m, so we got to pay again in the morning. I called her later in the day & suggested that we spend the weekend together at her place, which she agreed to. It was a memorable experience.

 

[grip]

Porn has a tendency to desensitize the watcher just as even too much sex does. The purveyor has to keep becoming more deviant to reach prior levels of arousal. The imagination or the real act is generally more healthy overall and less addictive.