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friend has been a senior scam artist? damn, just damn.
Is there a "rest of the story" here that I am missing?
set him up to get arrested. :thumbs:
Wouldn't bother me, as they would get nothing from me. Shakespeare wasn't half right when he said, "Neither a borrower nor a lender be". Well, except with banks and the like.
You never loan a friend money. Ever. Hell, 99% of the time I wouldn't loan family members money - including my mother. Any money I've given her I assume as a sunk cost.
Ah. See, I'm never the central event of a friend gathering. To do so means you carry responsibility. I actually enjoy going to parties/get-togethers where I don't know everyone and can just chill with new people.
The closest I come to it is having hosted a couple Super Bowl parties in the past that contain both co-workers and a few of my best friends. Having said that, I knew all of them very well, so there would be no shocks there.
point being, i had befriended her and now i feel stupid. i felt like something wasn't quite right, so i googled her, and OMG! i wouldn't think she was doing anything wrong NOW, but she was at 70, so maybe she still is at 79.
She just called you old.
Burn!
Ahhh, don't be hard on yourself, it's kind of natural to think of old people as nice. Experience has taught me that just because someone is elderly, it certainly doesn't make them automatically honest and upstanding.:mrgreen: Just chalk it up as another lesson.
i thought she was a fascinating woman.....and she is, just not the same kind of fascinating!
friend has been a senior scam artist? damn, just damn.
Sounds a little like 'Gee dad...I know my friend is an asshole...what do I do?"
Well...I dont know son...what do you think you do?
"I guess...maybe...stop hangin out with him?"
That sure makes a lot of sense to me...
just found a out that who i thought was a dear old lady was arrested about 8 years ago for scamming other dear old people. don't know the disposition, but i suspect she provided evidence that helped put her partner in jail.
point being, i had befriended her and now i feel stupid. i felt like something wasn't quite right, so i googled her, and OMG! i wouldn't think she was doing anything wrong NOW, but she was at 70, so maybe she still is at 79.
You're not clairvoyant, although you admit that something wasn't right about the woman.
You're not stupid, don't kick yourself.
My suggestion, as hard as it might be to do is, to stop associating with that person.
There is some sort of initiative warning signal you're detecting from this person.
yeah, that's a given. however, we are all part of a large group and i feel that the group should be warned. the facts i have aren't fleshed out though and i can't conceive of even approachiong her with questions, although i might have to. worse yet, group events are numerous and well attended.
Do these people trust you more than her?
I don't want to suggest starting a line of gossip that could get you more trouble than what it's worth.
If it were me, I'd put enough space between her and myself to prevent any possibility of theft or scamming.
At the same time, if you don't want to possibly embarrass yourself and that woman, just go along enjoy yourself but stay guarded.
Do that for yourself and your friends.
who doesn't trust a tiny 80 yr old lady? ;-)
who doesn't trust a tiny 80 yr old lady? ;-)
thanks for your insight.