Helen Joyce (via Jesse Signal) summed up its main points reasonably well:
According to Joyce, a longtime staffer at The Economist, most people “understand the call for ‘trans rights’ to mean compassionate concessions that enable a suffering minority to live full lives, in safety and dignity.” Joyce endorses this idea.
Her bête noire is what she calls gender-identity ideology, which holds that everyone has a “gender identity,” an internal sense of being male or female (or both or neither), that is, in most tellings, innate and immutable, “something like a sexed soul.” When someone’s gender identity conflicts with their body, and/or with how society views their body, that person is transgender.
In “Trans: When Ideology Meets Reality,” Helen Joyce argues that sex is not just a social construct.
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Obviously the ideology is more complex than this summary, but these are the highlights.
A dude attacked you for saying "transgendered" instead of "transgender" and your response is to say that you deserve it. That sounds like abuse to me.
I don't expect you to ever acknowledge it here, if you don't want to. But I want to let you know that most men in the world outside of this belief system will not treat you like this, and if you ever want out of this ideology, you can PM me and I will try to help however I can. No one else on this forum would need to know.
Have a good evening.