Are you speaking personally, or collectively here? Most Trumpers aren't so bad as to eschew their companionship or friendship. Hell, half my family is Trumpers! Over half!
The only way I get along with any friends/family who support Trump is by not talking politics.
The last time we did was well before Trump ran. Somewhere in 2012 or 2011, an uncle and his wife ('the Trump pair') were visiting with my parents; my sister, wife, and I were visiting, too. Anyway, the Trump pair started going on about how we don't know where Obama was born, how we don't have his birth certificate yet, etc. Eventually I stood up, said "that is the stupidest ****ing thing I have ever heard", and left the room; the only rude thing I think I've said to them.
I suspect my reaction would be even sharper if someone started spouting off about how the election was stolen with massive fraud. I'm fed up with it. And quite frankly, after 15 years of being told I'm more or less a domestic enemy by the same people who ultimately became Trump supporters, occurring against a larger background of a sustained 26 year push for power for power's sake by the GOP (blame Gingrich + Fox propaganda), itself against the even larger hypocritical and unholy alliance between evangelicals and the GOP crafted by Reagan, and I'm simply fed up.
I understand where checker is coming from. I mean, to log into DP after a murderous mob bent on insurrection, more murder, and destroying democracy to install Trump . . .
. . . and I see Trumpists calling it no more than a kegger that got out of hand? Claiming that the crowd was actually ANTIFA/BLM members dressed up like Trumpists? Launching the dishonest both-sides defense by pretending every single Floyd protester was personally responsible for crimes committed by thugs who use protests as cover, then saying "see, 'the left' does it to"?
If someone's going to do that, I have to doubt they have
any commitment to getting along as fellow Americans, and I do not believe for a second that their motivation simply boils down to disagreeing about politics. You don't cheer a literal insurrection simply because you don't want Biden to raise taxes on the best-off. You do it because you
hate the targets of that insurrection.
The future looks very bleak.
When someone responds "we've gotten through worse", I have to think "did we? Did we really? What does getting through mean, then? Merely continuing to exist as a country called America?" It's not like we fought a Civil War then kissed and made up. Instead we got segregation by law and resentments lasting up until today: there's a reason that guy had a confederate flag in the Capitol, and it wasn't to celebrate southern heritage.
So on and so forth. I don't think anything really ever healed.