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In this thread I'd like to discuss the tactics used today by our fellow American's...In this time of division among us, we see certain aspects of narcissism coming to the forefront in some people...It is troubling...We don't speak TO each other anymore, as much as we do speak OVER each other in a way where NOTHING will ever be discussed civilly...
Now, I can assure you my oponents in here would deny that they ever use the tactics discussed in the article I am posting, and flip the script to say that I am the narcissist here, even that posting this very thread proves it...Wrong...I'm just a guy in here that is looking for a way to get back to actual debate, rather than the circus we have in here now where people from both sides seem to think there is something to win by humiliating their opponent, and bullying them into silence....It's toxic...
So, let's see if we can have a discussion, and/or how long it will take to devolve into just another bait, and troll fest....
In a social interaction, discussion, or argument, regular, well-meaning people treat others with curiosity, empathy, and good faith. A narcissist, on the other hand, sees interaction as a win-lose situation. To win, they try to dominate, bully, deceive, demean, humiliate, and hurt others.
For that, they use certain common and predictable tactics that include but are not limited to arguing in bad faith, lying, denying, deflecting and attacking, gaslighting, and intimidating. If and when they feel they have lost or were wronged, they will try to intimidate you further and manipulate others in order to hurt you personally and socially. Sometimes while accusing you of it at the same time.
Engaging with a person who uses these tactics is fruitless, frustrating, boring, and predictable. Yet someone who is not quite familiar with it may think, But if only I explained myself better Or, But if only I presented my argument better Or, But if only they could understand where Im coming from But if only.
Yet theyre not interested in, and often not even capable of, that. They dont care about sound arguments, honesty, empathy, curiosity, or win-win resolutions. They mightclaim that they are all about that, but if you look at how they act its evident that they are not. https://psychcentral.com/blog/psychology-self/2018/08/narcissist-arguing#6
Now, I can assure you my oponents in here would deny that they ever use the tactics discussed in the article I am posting, and flip the script to say that I am the narcissist here, even that posting this very thread proves it...Wrong...I'm just a guy in here that is looking for a way to get back to actual debate, rather than the circus we have in here now where people from both sides seem to think there is something to win by humiliating their opponent, and bullying them into silence....It's toxic...
So, let's see if we can have a discussion, and/or how long it will take to devolve into just another bait, and troll fest....