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The route to bullying.

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The route to bullying.


When I was a lad of maybe 10, there were three of us that walked the approx. klick home from school and in route were confronted by a 12 year old 'Charlie' who delighted in harassing us. He would threaten and chase us and call us names. Threats from a 'big boy' were taken seriously and frightened us.

No thoughts then of 'squealing' to parents or teachers.
There were three potential routes to take home or to school. Easiest was straight through the neighborhood and a field of junk cars, a pond and such. A fun route. The quickest perhaps if not dallying on the R.R. cars or balancing on the rails walking, was straight down the R.R. tracks starting about a couple blocks from school and passing the end of our street. Parents frowned on that.
The longest by about 5 minutes took us to the end of the road and up a hill to the other end of the streets avoiding Charlies end of the street altogether.


Charlie took the neighborhood route.
The track route took us by his street.

So we took the long way round to avoid him. Seemed to make sense and we soon found interests on that choice of an extra 5 minutes.


I have reached an impasse attempting to understand what would drive a victim of Cyber bullying to repeatedly turn on a computer and seek out the sources of personal degradation by bullies, of looking for personal insults and threats usually from unidentified Cyber attackers.

The route to avoid them is there with a flick of a switch.
The route to avoid Cyber bullies is common sense. Don't take the route that leads to that place. Avoid it!

Yet some are apparently addicted to the abuse.
They return to be driven into suicide.

It makes no sense to me, but obviously I'm not a kid/teenager today.

It is so sad.
 
To modern teens, social media is what the Mall was a generation ago. It's where they meet their friends and hang out... if they are being "cyber bullied" then avoiding social media entirely also means avoiding the main venue by which their friends socialize. This is very difficult for many of them.

Most social media allow you to block and/or report bothersome people... but the buggers can also find ways around this, like posting stuff to you from another account. Also many teens are loathe to block or report someone as they may see it as giving up or losing face or admitting you got to them.

Sometimes the parent has to step in to restore some sanity to the situation. In order to do this, first the parent needs to be involved and alert and monitoring their child's internet useage, which should be done anyway.
 
Kids should be taught how to use the internet. It's not all for porn, stalking others on facebook, stalking celebrities on twitter and making a fool of yourself or post everything you did and everywhere you went. Honestly, during the communist period here in my country you had the oppression police come in and drag you to an interogation you making you spill your guts: what you did in the past week: everywhere you went, with whom, what did you say to whom, why, etc.

Connectivity doesn't mean putting nakid pics of yourself on reddit/r/gonewild or such.

Like that stupid, stupid kid amanda todd. Remember her? She got bullied by some random person because she was stupid enough to give him compromising photos of herself and ofc he used them to his advantage. Now the guy is a dirtbag and I hope amanda's father found him and killed him in the most painful of ways imagined but that doesn't excuse her for being a complete idiot. And I know, one mistake shouldn't ruin a life, but there are mistakes and there are mistakes. Not finishing college is a mistake but you can survive and thrive if you are dedicated and start making something with your life. Killing a person while drunk driving is a mistake that you shouldn't get by easy.
And today, it's easier than every to make mistakes online that will haunt you forever.

EDIT: Or the idiots who posted racist rants when obama got elected from their very public and very personal tweeter. Now normally, if I were a lawyer, and someone would be persecuted for his racist tweets against obama, I would defend him pro-bono because by defending him, I'm defending free speech. But nobody will tell you when you consistently get shafted at job interviews that it was because of your tweets.
 
Emos love the burn. It's a conditioned response.
 
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