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The guns aren't it, and neither is mental health. That said I wouldn't mind tighter background checks and more limits on semi autos, or not, I don't think that will change much either way. Nor do I think armed teachers is the answer; I'd bet a dollar to a hole in a doughnut it causes trouble before it saves anyone, we shall see.
The thing that's causing this is the one thing NOBODY wants to look at, nobody want to take this blame because this blame can only be placed when looking in the mirror!
Parents these days, its not lack of religion or faith, or any of that, though that stuff can be good or bad like anything, depending on it's apllication. I've seen agnostics and religious folks alike sucessfully raise great kids. The simple fact is though, most of us, well intentioned as we are, are either to caught up in making a living, the daily grind or whatever it is, and have too little idea of how even to relate to our kids much less parent. All too often parenting consists of paying not a ton of attention, till the kid gets in trouble, then getting emotionally bent, punishing too severely, maybe taking it bakc later, being inconsistent, maybe, whatever it is. Sometimes it's mild physical abuse (which does not work ultimately) maybe it's neglect.
See they barely teach balancing a check account, interest rates, all the basic crap a kid needs to learn to adult much less prosper in this society anymore. Boys are shunned from home ec, if even it's offered anymore, and parenting classes? You gotta be kidding me, but even if it's a good kid, not having sex or making kids, how bad could a parenting course in health be for them?
Then there's bullying, overworked, underpaid teachers not connecting. Don't get me wrong, I give this maybe 10% to teachers, 20% bullies and peers, but a good 70% of the blame is at home. Even the best intentioned parents stuggle, and kids come with no operators manual. It's time we get to acknowleging the real reason our kids get so isolated, frustrated, and feel so alone,. Most of these kids aren't sociopaths, or even necessarily bad seeds, but neglect these problems long enough and they fester, when just learning to involve ourselves, be aware what is going on with our kids, not over disciplining, and definitely not neglecting disciple (worse). No I do not suggest trying to be your kids best friend, but something between authority and friend seems about right. That extra effort to connect with opur kids, if anything can reduce these incidenst, that is the one thing that will work.
what do you think "semi autos" are and why should they be limited?
https://www.amazon.co.uk/s/?ie=UTF8...&hvtargid=kwd-15633983&ref=pd_sl_6m3ji1cuuk_b
I would like to see this as general reading for all.
In mental health we have recently come a long way. 20 years ago there was no decent treatment for many problems. Today we can fix lots of things without drugs, just a bit of counciling. Give it a try or a read.
The guns aren't it, and neither is mental health. That said I wouldn't mind tighter background checks and more limits on semi autos, or not, I don't think that will change much either way. Nor do I think armed teachers is the answer; I'd bet a dollar to a hole in a doughnut it causes trouble before it saves anyone, we shall see.
The thing that's causing this is the one thing NOBODY wants to look at, nobody want to take this blame because this blame can only be placed when looking in the mirror!
Parents these days, its not lack of religion or faith, or any of that, though that stuff can be good or bad like anything, depending on it's apllication. I've seen agnostics and religious folks alike sucessfully raise great kids. The simple fact is though, most of us, well intentioned as we are, are either to caught up in making a living, the daily grind or whatever it is, and have too little idea of how even to relate to our kids much less parent. All too often parenting consists of paying not a ton of attention, till the kid gets in trouble, then getting emotionally bent, punishing too severely, maybe taking it bakc later, being inconsistent, maybe, whatever it is. Sometimes it's mild physical abuse (which does not work ultimately) maybe it's neglect.
See they barely teach balancing a check account, interest rates, all the basic crap a kid needs to learn to adult much less prosper in this society anymore. Boys are shunned from home ec, if even it's offered anymore, and parenting classes? You gotta be kidding me, but even if it's a good kid, not having sex or making kids, how bad could a parenting course in health be for them?
Then there's bullying, overworked, underpaid teachers not connecting. Don't get me wrong, I give this maybe 10% to teachers, 20% bullies and peers, but a good 70% of the blame is at home. Even the best intentioned parents stuggle, and kids come with no operators manual. It's time we get to acknowleging the real reason our kids get so isolated, frustrated, and feel so alone,. Most of these kids aren't sociopaths, or even necessarily bad seeds, but neglect these problems long enough and they fester, when just learning to involve ourselves, be aware what is going on with our kids, not over disciplining, and definitely not neglecting disciple (worse). No I do not suggest trying to be your kids best friend, but something between authority and friend seems about right. That extra effort to connect with opur kids, if anything can reduce these incidenst, that is the one thing that will work.
Most mass killers are not kids.
Thank you for trying to add to the discussion and talk about the solution and not sinking to the level of trying to get some petty partisan bickering going on. This is not a discussion about guns, it's a discussion of being there for our kids that obviously need us.
The guns aren't it, and neither is mental health. That said I wouldn't mind tighter background checks and more limits on semi autos, or not, I don't think that will change much either way. Nor do I think armed teachers is the answer; I'd bet a dollar to a hole in a doughnut it causes trouble before it saves anyone, we shall see.
The thing that's causing this is the one thing NOBODY wants to look at, nobody want to take this blame because this blame can only be placed when looking in the mirror!
Parents these days, its not lack of religion or faith, or any of that, though that stuff can be good or bad like anything, depending on it's apllication. I've seen agnostics and religious folks alike sucessfully raise great kids. The simple fact is though, most of us, well intentioned as we are, are either to caught up in making a living, the daily grind or whatever it is, and have too little idea of how even to relate to our kids much less parent. All too often parenting consists of paying not a ton of attention, till the kid gets in trouble, then getting emotionally bent, punishing too severely, maybe taking it bakc later, being inconsistent, maybe, whatever it is. Sometimes it's mild physical abuse (which does not work ultimately) maybe it's neglect.
See they barely teach balancing a check account, interest rates, all the basic crap a kid needs to learn to adult much less prosper in this society anymore. Boys are shunned from home ec, if even it's offered anymore, and parenting classes? You gotta be kidding me, but even if it's a good kid, not having sex or making kids, how bad could a parenting course in health be for them?
Then there's bullying, overworked, underpaid teachers not connecting. Don't get me wrong, I give this maybe 10% to teachers, 20% bullies and peers, but a good 70% of the blame is at home. Even the best intentioned parents stuggle, and kids come with no operators manual. It's time we get to acknowleging the real reason our kids get so isolated, frustrated, and feel so alone,. Most of these kids aren't sociopaths, or even necessarily bad seeds, but neglect these problems long enough and they fester, when just learning to involve ourselves, be aware what is going on with our kids, not over disciplining, and definitely not neglecting disciple (worse). No I do not suggest trying to be your kids best friend, but something between authority and friend seems about right. That extra effort to connect with opur kids, if anything can reduce these incidenst, that is the one thing that will work.
Way to completely miss the point. This is proof you are not worth discussing anything with. I clearly said I'm fine with that or not, and that I don't think it's the issue and all you can do is look for a partisan fight to pick?
Yet it's still where the problem starts in many cases.
Yes all adults were once kids. But plenty of kids/adults who have/had very bad parents dont end up killing a bunch of people; the majority do not kill people.
You are 100% blaming teachers, peers, and the parents? What about the individual that did the crime? I hate to break it to you, but no matter how well you raise a child they can end up as heartless assholes. People with good parents excellent teachers and awesome friends can commit horrible crimes.
Most mass killers are not kids.
It's a cultural issue, this doesn't happen elsewhere in the world, there's something wrong in our culture. I think it has a lot to do with disconnected society and that starts at home.
The guns aren't it, and neither is mental health. That said I wouldn't mind tighter background checks and more limits on semi autos, or not, I don't think that will change much either way. Nor do I think armed teachers is the answer; I'd bet a dollar to a hole in a doughnut it causes trouble before it saves anyone, we shall see.
The thing that's causing this is the one thing NOBODY wants to look at, nobody want to take this blame because this blame can only be placed when looking in the mirror!
Parents these days, its not lack of religion or faith, or any of that, though that stuff can be good or bad like anything, depending on it's apllication. I've seen agnostics and religious folks alike sucessfully raise great kids. The simple fact is though, most of us, well intentioned as we are, are either to caught up in making a living, the daily grind or whatever it is, and have too little idea of how even to relate to our kids much less parent. All too often parenting consists of paying not a ton of attention, till the kid gets in trouble, then getting emotionally bent, punishing too severely, maybe taking it bakc later, being inconsistent, maybe, whatever it is. Sometimes it's mild physical abuse (which does not work ultimately) maybe it's neglect.
See they barely teach balancing a check account, interest rates, all the basic crap a kid needs to learn to adult much less prosper in this society anymore. Boys are shunned from home ec, if even it's offered anymore, and parenting classes? You gotta be kidding me, but even if it's a good kid, not having sex or making kids, how bad could a parenting course in health be for them?
Then there's bullying, overworked, underpaid teachers not connecting. Don't get me wrong, I give this maybe 10% to teachers, 20% bullies and peers, but a good 70% of the blame is at home. Even the best intentioned parents stuggle, and kids come with no operators manual. It's time we get to acknowleging the real reason our kids get so isolated, frustrated, and feel so alone,. Most of these kids aren't sociopaths, or even necessarily bad seeds, but neglect these problems long enough and they fester, when just learning to involve ourselves, be aware what is going on with our kids, not over disciplining, and definitely not neglecting disciple (worse). No I do not suggest trying to be your kids best friend, but something between authority and friend seems about right. That extra effort to connect with opur kids, if anything can reduce these incidenst, that is the one thing that will work.
I agree to an extent with what you pose. The notion that its the societal and family frameworks of today are causing this is not too wrong, nor is it completely right. The primary question one should ask is why are these mass shootings happening?? The answer to this is such a debatable topic and for anyone to have any claim to know the answer is wrong. In the short term, I believe, heavier legislation and even banning of firearms is needed. The legislation and processes involved in implemented such constructs can be implemented in the short term to achieve some sort of viable safety. The issues you pose are long term solutions to long term (or better still) somewhat insolvable problems. There is only so much education, legislation and information that can convincingly alter or change how individuals are brought up. However it starts with the basics of education, addressing mental health etc..
The guns aren't it, and neither is mental health. That said I wouldn't mind tighter background checks and more limits on semi autos, or not, I don't think that will change much either way. Nor do I think armed teachers is the answer; I'd bet a dollar to a hole in a doughnut it causes trouble before it saves anyone, we shall see.
The thing that's causing this is the one thing NOBODY wants to look at, nobody want to take this blame because this blame can only be placed when looking in the mirror!
Parents these days, its not lack of religion or faith, or any of that, though that stuff can be good or bad like anything, depending on it's apllication. I've seen agnostics and religious folks alike sucessfully raise great kids. The simple fact is though, most of us, well intentioned as we are, are either to caught up in making a living, the daily grind or whatever it is, and have too little idea of how even to relate to our kids much less parent. All too often parenting consists of paying not a ton of attention, till the kid gets in trouble, then getting emotionally bent, punishing too severely, maybe taking it bakc later, being inconsistent, maybe, whatever it is. Sometimes it's mild physical abuse (which does not work ultimately) maybe it's neglect.
See they barely teach balancing a check account, interest rates, all the basic crap a kid needs to learn to adult much less prosper in this society anymore. Boys are shunned from home ec, if even it's offered anymore, and parenting classes? You gotta be kidding me, but even if it's a good kid, not having sex or making kids, how bad could a parenting course in health be for them?
Then there's bullying, overworked, underpaid teachers not connecting. Don't get me wrong, I give this maybe 10% to teachers, 20% bullies and peers, but a good 70% of the blame is at home. Even the best intentioned parents stuggle, and kids come with no operators manual. It's time we get to acknowleging the real reason our kids get so isolated, frustrated, and feel so alone,. Most of these kids aren't sociopaths, or even necessarily bad seeds, but neglect these problems long enough and they fester, when just learning to involve ourselves, be aware what is going on with our kids, not over disciplining, and definitely not neglecting disciple (worse). No I do not suggest trying to be your kids best friend, but something between authority and friend seems about right. That extra effort to connect with opur kids, if anything can reduce these incidenst, that is the one thing that will work.
When a young Muslim in a foreign country engages in a violent act it is terrorism. When a young white kid in America engages in a violent act it is a societal failure.
The guns aren't it, and neither is mental health. That said I wouldn't mind tighter background checks and more limits on semi autos, or not, I don't think that will change much either way. Nor do I think armed teachers is the answer; I'd bet a dollar to a hole in a doughnut it causes trouble before it saves anyone, we shall see.
The thing that's causing this is the one thing NOBODY wants to look at, nobody want to take this blame because this blame can only be placed when looking in the mirror!
Parents these days, its not lack of religion or faith, or any of that, though that stuff can be good or bad like anything, depending on it's apllication. I've seen agnostics and religious folks alike sucessfully raise great kids. The simple fact is though, most of us, well intentioned as we are, are either to caught up in making a living, the daily grind or whatever it is, and have too little idea of how even to relate to our kids much less parent. All too often parenting consists of paying not a ton of attention, till the kid gets in trouble, then getting emotionally bent, punishing too severely, maybe taking it bakc later, being inconsistent, maybe, whatever it is. Sometimes it's mild physical abuse (which does not work ultimately) maybe it's neglect.
See they barely teach balancing a check account, interest rates, all the basic crap a kid needs to learn to adult much less prosper in this society anymore. Boys are shunned from home ec, if even it's offered anymore, and parenting classes? You gotta be kidding me, but even if it's a good kid, not having sex or making kids, how bad could a parenting course in health be for them?
Then there's bullying, overworked, underpaid teachers not connecting. Don't get me wrong, I give this maybe 10% to teachers, 20% bullies and peers, but a good 70% of the blame is at home. Even the best intentioned parents stuggle, and kids come with no operators manual. It's time we get to acknowleging the real reason our kids get so isolated, frustrated, and feel so alone,. Most of these kids aren't sociopaths, or even necessarily bad seeds, but neglect these problems long enough and they fester, when just learning to involve ourselves, be aware what is going on with our kids, not over disciplining, and definitely not neglecting disciple (worse). No I do not suggest trying to be your kids best friend, but something between authority and friend seems about right. That extra effort to connect with opur kids, if anything can reduce these incidenst, that is the one thing that will work.
Not necessarily. It's only considered terrorism if the act was an act of violence against civilians in the pursuit of political aims.When a young Muslim in a foreign country engages in a violent act it is terrorism.
Not true. Is consider some of the incidents during antifa protest riots to bee acts of terrorism and most of those people are white.When a young white kid in America engages in a violent act it is a societal failure.
This post pissed me off.
When I read what it was like for the Parkland shooter's mother in the months preceding her death I felt a deep sense of sympathy. The asshat had domestically abused that woman to the point she was terrified of him. His behavioral problems were in the extreme long before he took off and killed people. I can't blame her. He was dealing with crap all the way back to his preteen years.
When a young Muslim in a foreign country engages in a violent act it is terrorism. When a young white kid in America engages in a violent act it is a societal failure.
It's a cultural issue, this doesn't happen elsewhere in the world, there's something wrong in our culture. I think it has a lot to do with disconnected society and that starts at home.
why wasn't his father around to beat his ass for hurting his mother? If I dared even mouth off to my mother my father would take me over his knee without a chance of escape. This bastard's father thought? Where was he? Dead? In the home impregnating more women?
Not a word about the father of this man.
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