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UtahBill said:I see your point, and can identify somewhat with your experience. I had an abusive mother. I was the 4th of 5 kids and somehow I didn't see what was going on when the older 3 left at 17. I hung in there for an extra year and found out that it was a mistake.
Freud said that most of a child's personality, and attitudes, are well developed by the age of 6. Paraphrased, it goes like this, if you don't have control of your kid by age 6, you may never get control.
Medical science has lately determined that the teen brain is not anywhere near fully developed, in fact most of us are not fully mentally and emotionally developed until our early 20's. So it is hard, especially without help, to know what to do to correct the errors your parents made, assuming you are aware that you need to make those corrections.
Congratulations on making it, and don't dwell too much on the past. I am pushing 60 and still have moments when I dwell too much on what I missed out on as a child. But, it does give me an excuse to have a "second" childhood. I just say that the first one was so bad that I deserve this one.:lol:
I'm a silly type, and many people tell me at times I should conduct myself as an adult. I merely point out that by looking at the world through my children's eyes, I can see what I missed, and make sure they don't