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The Enemy Within

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a person who fears intimacy has:
  • trust issues
  • experience episodes of random anger
  • actively avoid physical contact
  • have trouble forming or committing to close relationships
  • have a history of unstable relationships
  • be unable to share feelings or express emotion
  • have insatiable sexual desire
  • live in self-imposed social isolation
  • sabotage your own relationships
  • passive-aggressive
  • ghosting people
  • quitting jobs, or changing addresses alot
  • weird fantasies about people
  • feeling no emotion around people and excessive emotion when alone
  • random sadness
  • anxiety and or depression
  • no regular contact with family
  • perfectionism
  • desire to run away when around people
  • inability to relate with healthy people
  • friendships only with other emotionally distant people
  • nobody lives up to your high standards
  • overly intellectual when communicating
  • reluctance to fully commit
  • an outsider
  • having a cold disposition
  • suicidal
  • sense of panic when getting close to someone
this is most often caused by a hidden inferiority complex. which then gets triggered during interactions with people. the mind doesn't realize its coming from within so it blames the other person. over time the mind develops a fearful and hateful attitude towards people in general. becomes an avoidant anti-social loner to try and reduce the pain. which then creates new painful feelings of loneliness and meaninglessness. and a victim mentality that the world is a big scary hard place fuking me over.

solution is to catch the feeling in real-time and bring it up into awareness. take responsibility for it and not blame it on anyone else. stop suppressing and blaming. stop reacting and start examining. become curious about it. apply doubt to its truthfulness. question it. and take its power away by accepting the part of yourself that it hates. allow the full power of your awareness and intelligence to diffuse it.

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everything in life has disadvantages and advantages. the very parts of yourself that you hate have advantages your not acknowledging.

“Your life will be transformed when you make peace with your shadow. The caterpillar will become a breathtakingly beautiful butterfly. You will no longer have to pretend to be someone you're not. You will no longer have to prove you're good enough. When you embrace your shadow you will no longer have to live in fear. Find the gifts of your shadow and you will finally revel in all the glory of your true self. Then you will have the freedom to create the life you have always desired.” ― Debbie Ford

“Each aspect within us needs understanding and compassion. If we are unwilling to give it to ourselves how can we expect the world to give it to us?” ― Debbie Ford

“The greatest act of courage is to be and to own all of who you are — without apology, without excuses, without masks to cover the truth of who you are." ― Debbie Ford
 
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Sounds like autism.


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That also sounds like someone with inflexible and unrealistic expectations of themselves and others. We all need to remove the stick from up our bungholes. Live and let live. :)
 
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