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How an Abstinence Pledge in the ’90s Shamed a Generation of Evangelicals (Published 2021)
The Christian “purity” movement promoted a strict view of abstinence before marriage. But two decades later, some followers are grappling with unforeseen aftershocks.
www.nytimes.com
Many people certainly found lifelong contentment because of having waited for the right mate. But for others, as the Retro Report video shows, the dictates of the purity movement were so emotionally onerous that their adulthoods have been filled with apprehension and, in some instances, physical pain. They are people like Linda Kay Klein, who embraced the movement in her teens but left it in disenchantment at 21, two decades ago.
She described the trauma and the shame she felt this way: “I would find myself in tears and in a ball in the corner of a bed, crying, my eczema coming out, which it does when I’m stressed, and scratching myself till I bled, and having a deep shame reaction.” Ms. Klein found she was far from alone. She collected tales of enduring anxiety in a book, “Pure: Inside the Evangelical Movement That Shamed a Generation of Young Women and How I Broke Free” (Touchstone, 2018). “We went to war with ourselves, our own bodies and our own sexual natures,” she wrote, “all under the strict commandment of the church.”
Conservative sexuality has done a wonderful job of masking itself as a "purity" movement, claiming that "saving oneself until marriage" is one of the best things a young person could do. Purity rings, purity balls (dances, not genital ornaments), purity pledges dominate this movement, all with one single goal: If you wait until marriage with someone of the opposite sex to do anything sexual, you are a good person. Otherwise, you are a bad person. Never mind if you are LGBTQ; the "purity" movement leaves you out entirely.
What this movement really is is a propaganda campaign to make conservative parents feel like they're in control of their children's sexuality. It denies youth the right to learn about and explore sexuality in a safe, healthy manner. Consider Western European countries, which have far fewer illusions about teenage sexuality yet have far lower rates of STIs. They don't shame their youth for having desires that are just as normal as the desire to eat.
The good news is that organized religion in the United States is collapsing, and hopefully, taking this toxic "purity" movement down with it.