Tell us about your dating encounters with really dumb people ...

[Josie]

I went out with a guy a few times. We would also text back and forth during the day. One day he said something and I typed "mmmhm". He was confused and didn't know what that meant. I also said the word "atwitter" once and he didn't know what that was either. We were talking about some deep topic one time and he stopped in the middle and said "You're really smart." Actually I'm pretty average intelligence -- he was just really dumb.

 

[calamity]

I don't date stupid people. In fact, looking back in time, I cannot think of one I would call "dumb." Neurotic? Yes, there were at least a dozen who would qualify. Dumb? Not one.

 

[calamity]

I got to thinking. Not only were none of my GF's dumb, but a good number of them far exceeded my own not-too-shabby achievements.

Live-in GF #1 retired early from GM and now owns a farm not too far from where Kidd Rock grew up.

LIG #2 formed an advertising agency in Chicago with the guy she married and now lives on the Gulf Shore in a $5M home somewhere south of Tampa

BFF of all time ran a marketing firm and now owns her own Quilt Shop in rural Illinois.

Wife #1 married a marketing/producer genius in Nashville and now lives in a million dollar home.

First GF post divorce, a violinist with the Nashville S/O (at the time), married a financial whiz and also lives in a million dollar home.

Wife #2 is like me, a management professional doing OK

Wife #3 is well-educated and keeps me abreast of all the news and events going on that I am too busy to keep up with throughout the day.

Like I said, I cannot think of any who are dumb, most were overachievers as shown above. One thing I would complain about though is women's health. Not a single female I ever dated or married is as healthy as I am today, not even the wife who is ten years younger than me.

I think that in bold is a thing. Chicks live longer than dudes, but they encounter a lot of health issues along the way. Guys tend to just drop dead somewhere between 75 and 80, with probably no doctor's visits for 40 years.

 

[CLAX1911]

I went out with a guy a few times. We would also text back and forth during the day. One day he said something and I typed "mmmhm". He was confused and didn't know what that meant. I also said the word "atwitter" once and he didn't know what that was either. We were talking about some deep topic one time and he stopped in the middle and said "You're really smart." Actually I'm pretty average intelligence -- he was just really dumb.

Maybe you're more insightful than most people that's possible, maybe you have a bigger vocabulary.

 

[SNOWFLAKE]

This is a really dumb thread, just sayin'

 

[EMNofSeattle]

I went out with a guy a few times. We would also text back and forth during the day. One day he said something and I typed "mmmhm". He was confused and didn't know what that meant. I also said the word "atwitter" once and he didn't know what that was either. We were talking about some deep topic one time and he stopped in the middle and said "You're really smart." Actually I'm pretty average intelligence -- he was just really dumb.

In my younger days I dated an atheist.

 

[Bullseye]

I got to thinking. Not only were none of my GF's dumb, but a good number of them far exceeded my own not-too-shabby achievements.

Live-in GF #1 retired early from GM and now owns a farm not too far from where Kidd Rock grew up.

LIG #2 formed an advertising agency in Chicago with the guy she married and now lives on the Gulf Shore in a $5M home somewhere south of Tampa

BFF of all time ran a marketing firm and now owns her own Quilt Shop in rural Illinois.

Wife #1 married a marketing/producer genius in Nashville and now lives in a million dollar home.

First GF post divorce, a violinist with the Nashville S/O (at the time), married a financial whiz and also lives in a million dollar home.

Wife #2 is like me, a management professional doing OK

Wife #3 is well-educated and keeps me abreast of all the news and events going on that I am too busy to keep up with throughout the day.

Like I said, I cannot think of any who are dumb, most were overachievers as shown above. One thing I would complain about though is women's health. Not a single female I ever dated or married is as healthy as I am today, not even the wife who is ten years younger than me.

I think that in bold is a thing. Chicks live longer than dudes, but they encounter a lot of health issues along the way. Guys tend to just drop dead somewhere between 75 and 80, with probably no doctor's visits for 40 years.

So, apparently the common denominator is that they can’t stand you long term.

 

[Omniscient]

I went out with a guy a few times. We would also text back and forth during the day.

women reject men who text alot or text during the day because it makes him seem like a friend

so they subconsciously friend zone him

 

[Josie]

women reject men who text alot or text during the day because it makes him seem like a friend

so they subconsciously friend zone him

Nah, I don't get that. I enjoy that text interaction.

 

[Omniscient]

I enjoy that text interaction.

exactly, and thats the problem

when a womens head says yes her pusy says no

and when her head says no her pusy says hes

basically: they are attracted to men that piss them off

if they "enjoy" him then he gets friend zoned.

men are the same way

 

[Josie]

exactly, and thats the problem

when a womens head says yes her pusy says no

and when her head says no her pusy says hes

basically: they are attracted to men that piss them off

if they "enjoy" him then he gets friend zoned.

men are the same way

I'm not attracted to men who piss me off at all. Some women are, of course. I don't think it's a "most women" thing and it's definitely not an "all women" thing.

 

[SheWolf]

I went out with a guy a few times. We would also text back and forth during the day. One day he said something and I typed "mmmhm". He was confused and didn't know what that meant. I also said the word "atwitter" once and he didn't know what that was either. We were talking about some deep topic one time and he stopped in the middle and said "You're really smart." Actually I'm pretty average intelligence -- he was just really dumb.

My brother lived in Vegas for a while, and he knew Chris Angel. Girls who date Chris Angel have similar stories about Chris being really dumb.

 

[SheWolf]

women reject men who text alot or text during the day because it makes him seem like a friend

so they subconsciously friend zone him

I don’t know if I believe that.

 

[Omniscient]

I'm attracted to men who piss me off at all. Some women are, of course. I don't think it's a "most women" thing and it's definitely not an "all women" thing.

its young women

once a woman hits 30 and still doesnt have her nest from the bad boy she stops listening to her pusy as much

then she becomes more open to the nice guy

this process increases more and more as she ages

 

[EMNofSeattle]

exactly, and thats the problem

when a womens head says yes her pusy says no

and when her head says no her pusy says hes

basically: they are attracted to men that piss them off

if they "enjoy" him then he gets friend zoned.

men are the same way

I don’t fully agree. My girlfriend and I were friends for a long time before we started dating. Although in all fairness, it was very apparent that I wanted to date her, and I had to persist through a few noes order to get to this point.

 

[calamity]

In my younger days I dated an atheist.

So, are you saying that you quit dating smart people?

 

[SheWolf]

exactly, and thats the problem

when a womens head says yes her pusy says no

and when her head says no her pusy says hes

basically: they are attracted to men that piss them off

if they "enjoy" him then he gets friend zoned.

men are the same way

You’re describing unhealthy relationships. I am married. My husband and I don’t play games with each other, and our relationship is not boring. It’s a very healthy supportive relationship with no emotional manipulation.

There are certain personality disorders prone to turning relationship into abuse cycles and threats of leaving unless. Don’t stay in situations like that. It will not get better.

 

[Josie]

its young women

once a woman hits 30 and still doesnt have her nest from the bad boy she stops listening to her pusy as much

then she becomes more open to the nice guy

this process increases more and more as she ages

You have a lot of silly generalizations. I wasn't like that in my 20s either. I don't know many women who were/are like that.

 

[Omniscient]

You’re describing unhealthy relationships. I am married. My husband and I don’t play games with each other, and our relationship is not boring. It’s a very healthy supportive relationship with no emotional manipulation.

most poeple want some codependency in their relationship

the see humbleness and passiveness

they are attracted to narcissism

 

[Omniscient]

I don’t fully agree. My girlfriend and I were friends for a long time before we started dating. Although in all fairness, it was very apparent that I wanted to date her, and I had to persist through a few noes

ya thats why she said no alot

she wanted hot romance not friendship

 

[Omniscient]

You have a lot of silly generalizations.

all psychology is generalizations

it has to be

or it wouldnt exist

 

[Josie]

I think many of "nice guys" who get rejected a lot are the "too nice" guys. The "too nice" guys are pushovers. I'm not attracted to men who can't make decisions, won't stand up for themselves, are massive mama's boys, etc. They are some of the most unattractive men to me. I'm very attracted to nice guys who are confident, will stand up for themselves and me (when needed) and can take charge and make decisions.

So if you are a nice guy and you keep being rejected by women, have some introspection and not immediately assume she wants you to be a jerk to her. Maybe she just wants you to have some more confidence.

 

[calamity]

its young women

once a woman hits 30 and still doesnt have her nest from the bad boy she stops listening to her pusy as much

then she becomes more open to the nice guy

this process increases more and more as she ages

There is a huge difference between what women in their twenties want from men compared to the ones hitting 30. I can't even count the number of females I know who ditched the guy they were hot for at 25 the minute they turned 30. By 31, they are up to their elbows in a relationship with a guy holding a steady job, Some women figure it out a bit earlier, like by 25, but they are few.

At 23, I got ditched by one of the girls mentioned in my post above when she turned 26. Her exact words to me were that she didn't have time for my games anymore. Good call on her part; she hooked up with a dude who was 36 and then, "formed an advertising agency in Chicago with the guy she married and now lives on the Gulf Shore in a $5M home somewhere south of Tampa."

Guys kind of do that in reverse. At 20-30, depending on their own maturity level, they want the more established female, a professional who has her shit together and maybe even owns a house already. But, at age-40, they suddenly want some ditz that stands out in a crowd. By 50, they realize that hooking up with the eye-candy was a mistake but learn to live with the consequences, since divorce now is too expensive. So, even if she's boinking the tennis coach, the guy looks the other way.

 

[SheWolf]

most poeple want some codependency in their relationship

the see humbleness and passiveness

they are attracted to narcissism

I am not at all codependent. I am very independent. My husband likes that I can take care of myself and do not depend in him for everything. We have a healthy balance. Our relationship is based on trust and support, not dependency.

As for narcissists, I have ended all contact with plenty of them. There is nothing intriguing under the surface. They are just insecure and controlling.

 

[calamity]

all psychology is generalizations

it has to be

or it wouldnt exist

lol...the thread sort of calls for generalizations. I know I fit into some box.

Young and successful, I married the Frenchie who looked like a young Rebecca De Mornay. Of course, that lasted about as long as a tall drink on a hot day. She married twice more and finally landed the music producer. I married twice more and landed someone ten years younger than me and struggled mightily to keep that from blowing up, especially back in 2010 or so, when we separated during her mid-life crisis and my phase of doing blow and banging strippers. Ten years later, we laugh about those times...sort of.