I have a question. Are there no marriages where men cheat? You seem to blame all the problems on the men in the relationship - so why aren't you counseling men to shape up? Marriage is just a piece of paper. Relationships fail whether that piece of paper is there or not.
Men have always wanted to do things the wrong way. Throughout all history. This is nothing new. I have smacked around numerous men for doing this. But the fact is, you women have the power in the relationship. If women give yourselves away, a man will be more than happy to take advantage of it. Men are not as commitment driven as women are. You offer sex without any cost, he'll take it.
If you women demanded that they marry you first, and commit to you first, they would. But to the modern male, a commitmentless relationship is a great deal. They don't have to commit. They don't have to make any promises. And if they want to find a more cute, more sexy, more attractive woman later, they can. No strings attached. They don't even have to feel bad about breaking a vow. And trust me, there will always be someone more cute, sexy and attractive than you.
The problem is, you women seem to think that a man should act like he's in a committed marriage relationship, when he isn't. That's because you women are faithful even in shack up relationships. You women treat being "boy-friend and girl-friend" like it has the same weight as marriage. Fact is, men don't have that. In the average male mind, he didn't commit to anything..... because...... he didn't commit to anything. You are a girl-friend, and he can find another girl-friend. That's exactly what they do, and then you women act like all men are scum.
No, you never had a real marriage, and thus he didn't act like he was married.
I had a co-worker friend two years back. He had shacked up with his girl friend. They were together for 2 years. He started telling me... you know... I just don't want to marry because you know... what if I find someone better? What if I find someone more sexy?
I smacked him around. The reason he was thinking that way is exactly because he wasn't married. The average life span of an unmarried move in relationship is 3 years. The first year is normally pretty good. The second, they typically start questioning the relationship. The third year they split up. Now, that's on average, but that's generally how it goes. He was following the typical pattern. I told him off, and that he should marry, and make a life with her, and shut up about finding someone else. Last I heard they were married, and still together.
So I don't stick it to the women all the time. Not by a long shot. But the issue is, you girls have the power in the relationship. I can yell at men all day, but if the women are giving themselves away for free, most men will take it. And again, you girls are the ones hurt by this. Not the men.