My cousin is getting married in three weeks. I got the invite and it's "black tie optional ".
They are getting married at The Elms and they put on the invite that you could reserve a room. Now, my cousin is 40, never been married, yet it registered at all these hoity toity places. I always thought if someone was older when they got hitched, they really didn't do this? I don't know? I thought the point of registering was to let people know what you need as far as household items because you're starting out? ... Or am I antiquated in my thinking?
She's an attorney for the DoD and he is some high ranking military officer. They're both in their 40s, with lived in their own for years... this wedding is a big deal, and my mom called yesterday asking if the kids and I we're going. She seemed upset when I told her no.
I can't afford (honestly ) the trip to the wedding, a room to stay over and a gift from one of these high brow stores. My son has a suit, but it certainly isn't a tux and it's not a black suit to fit the black tie optional...so there's another expense. My cousin and I are not close.
Is it horrible that I don't go and just send a card and some money...? It want be a lot if money either...lol...just saying.
We have a culture that tells everyone to do like our government, and just borrow yourselves into oblivion, splurge on whatever you want, and worry about the consequences later.
I recently got an invitation to a cousin wedding myself. I know him, and I've met the girl, and they are both awesome. But the Wedding is in California at a uptown place, and I'm in Ohio, and work for $10 an hour.
Oh sure I wouldn't mind going to California.... but I *would* mind having my electricity cut off from not paying the bill. Of course I could always take out a credit card, and then max out my credit limit (I do not have a single credit card at this time).... but I just spent 5 years of my life, working as an indentured servant to the banks I borrowed money from.
I paid off every single debt, canceled every single card, closed out every single loan. I am *NOT* going to do that *EVER* again. Period. PERIOD.
So guess where I'll be for Captain America, and Wonder Woman's wedding? (He's ex-military and still looks like a model, and she's a Latin beauty pageant) Here in Ohio... working.
Let me put it another way. If you were physically blind, and someone offered to take you on a helicopter ride over the grand canyon, would you go?
I'm blind.
Yeah but the view is going to be amazing!
But I'm blind.
Yeah but this is a once in a lifetime thing!
Hello... I am blind!
Would you call such a person horrible, because they didn't go on a sight seeing helicopter ride when they are blind? Of course not.
Well.... if you don't have the money to go to a wedding... then you can't go. If someone thinks badly about that, then tell them to pay for your trip.
If my Cousin offers to pay for my flight, pay for a rental car, pay for food and boarding, I'll be more than happy to eat on his dime. But I don't have dime. I've got bills to pay.
So I'm with you girl. Buy a card, put a bunch of hearts and XOXOs on it, and put a 33¢ stamp on it, and call it good.