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And you cannot pay a surrogate.
So what say you? Should it be legal to pay your surrogate?
Do not confuse the biological mother with a the birth mother.
If I understand it correct, true surrogacy is someone's fertilized egg implanted into the incubating womb.
Because it's exploitative. She's not freely consenting to it. She only chooses it out of necessity.
And besides, even if she freely consents, what of the right of the child to know his mother?
I think it's more complicated than that. It's that you can't pay your surrogate for "ownership"
Is Surrogacy Legal in New York? | Scott Legal, P.C.
The current legality in New York is driven by court case where a surrogate (who was also the biological mother) refused to give up the child. As a result, NY law provides that surrogate contracts are not recognized, and are in fact illegal to enter into. This does not preclude people serving as surrogates for family or friends. Also, lately, most surrogate birth mothers are not the biological mother.
I think New York should and will change the law. Private arrangements have always occurred.
I don't know all of the details on this, but I believe some states allow it. New York state government has proposed a bill to make it legal in their state. What say you? Should paid surrogacy be legal or illegal?
I have no problem with it's legality.
IMO people should have control over their own bodies. So as far as I am concerned, prostitution, bondage, personal drug use, a person's choice to alter their appearance via plastic surgery, a woman's right to choose, a person's desire for assisted suicide...and paid surrogacy is all one in the same to me.
As long as it is a free choice made by an ADULT with the full understanding of the consequences, and acceptance of full responsibility for outcomes good or bad...I say why not? :shrug:
P.S. I could not vote because I don't understand the "Barring criminals" exception in choice #1.
That's not "free choice." That's a devil's bargain made under duress. It has nothing to do with my original response. :doh
Why would no amount be enough? Women choose to be surrogates out of compassion for the couple who can't conceive their own. Why do you think she'd only go for it if the payment was $1 million? Most surrogates get much, much less than that.
That would be as ridiculous as saying I am not freely consenting to do my job as I am only doing it out of necessity.
The child would know his/her mother. The person carrying the child wouldn't be it's mother. If we reached the point that women no longer carried children but babies were grown in an artificial womb, would you consider the artificial womb the child's parent?
Why would no amount be enough? Women choose to be surrogates out of compassion for the couple who can't conceive their own. Why do you think she'd only go for it if the payment was $1 million? Most surrogates get much, much less than that.
In a sense that's true, which is why we have labor laws to prevent exploitation in the labor market.
An artificial womb isn't a person. A surrogate mother carries the baby in her for 9 months, feels the kicks, feeds the baby indirectly, goes to sleep with the baby, etc. There's a lot more involved here than you seem to realize.
The fact that an artificial womb isn't a person is precisely my point. The surrogate is not the mother and ultimately is a living incubator for the child of another couple. I realize what is involved, I just don't see how that is relevant.
I don't know all of the details on this, but I believe some states allow it. New York state government has proposed a bill to make it legal in their state. What say you? Should paid surrogacy be legal or illegal?
Which shows you how easily exploited surrogates can be. There is a reason why this is illegal to pay for it in most developed nations.
I voted the first choice but what is the definition of a criminal? I would have left that phrase off.
It's legal in most states in this very developed nation.
It's legal in most states in this very developed nation.
And that doesn't mean its right. For a couple that cannot have a child themselves, they can either:
1. Find a surrogate that will be willing to have a child for them in exchange for the costs of doing so - like missed work, medical costs and so on. Typically this would be a friend or family member.
Or.
2. Adopt. As someone that has a biological son and two adopted daughters, your kid is your kid regardless of whether they share any of your genetics or not. There are around 150 million orphans in this world that need families.
You pay women for surrogacy, and its going to be exploited. How many upper middle class women get paid to be surrogates? I doubt its very many.
Why does it matter if the woman WANTS to do it for the money? Why can't she use her body as she wants to use her body?
Why does it matter if the woman WANTS to do it for the money? Why can't she use her body as she wants to use her body?
I don't know all of the details on this, but I believe some states allow it. New York state government has proposed a bill to make it legal in their state. What say you? Should paid surrogacy be legal or illegal?
Because poor, destitute women shouldn't be forced into selling their bodies (like with surrogacy and prostitution) just to survive. It's the same reason why they shouldn't be able to sell their labor below a certain amount. Poor people are exploitable, and if we legislate that people can contract to whatever they wish, then you are guaranteeing exploitation.
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