Navy Pride said:Why should she not be legally required to inform him?
Because it's a private family matter and none of the government's damn business.
When and why did conservatives decide that the government needed to babysit its citizens and decide what they should and should not do? I miss the days of small-government conservatism...
Navy Pride said:I did not say anything about the government.....I just asked the question does the father in a marriage have th right to know if his wife is having and abortion.........
Kandahar said:Then you asked the follow-up question: Why shouldn't she be legally required to tell him, to which I gave the above answer. You most certainly DID mention the government, but only after my first response.
Navy Pride said:OK my bad I did say that........So if your wife was having and abortion with your child you don't think you should have a legal right to be informed?
Kandahar said:A legal right? No. Should she tell me anyway? Yes.
Navy Pride said:And your recourse is if she does not legally have to tell you?
Just bite the bullet and lose the child you helped to create?
Deegan said:This is a very difficult situation to decide, but I would have to agree with Judge Alito on this, where he dissented on the recent case brought before him. He decided that there was not an undue burden put on the woman to notify the spouse, and I would have to agree. She made the decision to get married, now certain responsibilities come with that agreement IMHO. I think a man deserves to know whom he has chosen to spend his life with, and this decision could change the relationship drastically. It is not a permission slip, it is simply a notification, and that is not a lot to ask.
Kandahar said:I certainly trust individuals more than the government to decide what's best for themselves.
M14 Shooter said:Not to take the thread off topic, but...
Does this 'trust' extend to people deciding whats best for themselves when investing their SocSec 'contributions'?
Kandahar said:Yes, biting the bullet is one option.
Or get a divorce.
Or get a marriage counselor.
Or ask her why she didn't tell me and talk about it.
Or any number of other things that don't involve putting her in jail.
but why try to legislate your personal views on marriage
Kandahar said:Don't you think that each person should decide for themselves and their family whether or not such a decision would "change the relationship drastically"? In most cases, you might be absolutely right, but why try to legislate your personal views on marriage/trust for EVERYONE? I certainly trust individuals more than the government to decide what's best for themselves.
RightatNYU said:I also voted yes, because I feel that she should.
However, I do not think she should be legally required to.
Gov shouldn't be involved in marriage at all, much less to this degree.
If you think you need a law to ensure that your wife tells you before aborting your child, then you need to rethink your marriage.
What about the wife who is separated from her husband and has been for years, who gets pregnant with her new boyfriend and decides to abort the child. Why should the husband be informed?
aps said:Wow. Is this the first time we have agreed with each other? :shock: I wholeheartedly agree, and you gave a very thoughtful, well-written answer.