cnredd said:Totally situational...There are relationships where it is the only thing keeping two people together, and others where it is the only problem...
independent_thinker2002 said:I am asking about your own personal opinions. I am not asking for a cookie-cutter formula. I know that each relationship is different. But what percentage of your relationship or your ideal relationship would sex be?
cherokee said:That’s not an easy question to answer. My wife and I enjoy a healthy sexual relationship but if it were to end tomorrow I would love her no less.
A friend asked me what she meant to me one day.
The only thing I could say was “She’s the air I breathe”.
ps. People dont believe me when I say the last fight we had was 14 years ago.
George_Washington said:That's exactly how I've felt about women in my past that I have cared about. This one girl I was watching a movie with on Valentine's Day, I remember how happy I was just having her rest her head on my shoulder.
cherokee said:That’s not an easy question to answer. My wife and I enjoy a healthy sexual relationship but if it were to end tomorrow I would love her no less.
A friend asked me what she meant to me one day.
The only thing I could say was “She’s the air I breathe”.
ps. People dont believe me when I say the last fight we had was 14 years ago.
independent_thinker2002 said:She's always right, huh? :mrgreen:
I just don't have the ability to keep my mouth shut when I disagree.:doh
The last fight my wife and I had was ah...well..ah... I dunno. It's been 10 years.cherokee said:ps. People dont believe me when I say the last fight we had was 14 years ago.
independent_thinker2002 said:She's always right, huh? :mrgreen:
I just don't have the ability to keep my mouth shut when I disagree.:doh
cherokee said:That’s not an easy question to answer. My wife and I enjoy a healthy sexual relationship but if it were to end tomorrow I would love her no less.
A friend asked me what she meant to me one day.
The only thing I could say was “She’s the air I breathe”.
ps. People dont believe me when I say the last fight we had was 14 years ago.
I want to modify my position here slightly because I think what I really meant to say is that sex in a happy marriage for me would factor in at about 30% with another 30% that is flexible in that, at the times when sex is not so frequent (which happens in most marriages, I think) that there remains a level of intimacy expressed in different ways that makes up for it. Which I guess, what it really comes down to is the constant nurturing of romantic love and a companionship that is natural, giving and at ease. But for me personally, those are intertwined with a healthy and exciting sex life. Clear as mud? lolmixedmedia said:That's kind of a tough question. I never really thought about it in that way, but I'm gonna say 30% with another 30% reliant on liking each other enough to keep the prospect of having sex with each other vibrant and exciting. Sex by the numbers is, for me, disheartening and doesn't contribute to the nurturing of a loving, happy marriage. That would make sex, in an ideal and healthy relationship, rated at about 60% for me. Damaged and/or unworkable relationships don't factor in.
George_Washington said:I'm not sure how some of you guys can say sex is like everything. Jallman, your assertion that sex is 75% in a, relationship is ridiculous. I'm not sure just what kind of thing you and your, uh, "partner" have going or how it works in the gay community. But for me, if a woman doesn't treat me right and I don't enjoy other things too, just having sex all day long is silly. I mean if you're talking about just having a meaningless sexual affair, that's one thing. But to have a relationship, you have to have more.
jallman said:My assertion was about my own relationship. My, uh, partner and I have a great relationship evident from the desire to keep having sex with one another with the same zeal as when we first started. I am not sure how you get along with the other half of your relationships, but I find that we simply have more time to enjoy sex because we are already of like mind on all the other stuff. I make no apologies for having a healthy sex drive nor for the fact that I enjoy being with someone who has a similar libido.
What sort of relationship did you have in mind when you posed this question?independent_thinker2002 said:I think that sex is 50% of a relationship. It is what makes the relationship unique. It is also so much fun. What does everyone think?