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Let me present a different situation. Although it’s very similar in some ways. This is actually the situation I’m in currently. I have been married to my wife for 12 years now. I knew at age 6 that I wasn’t male. Although I was born male. Out of fear I hide this about myself for 36 years. I never intended on telling anyone. But after 36 years I couldn’t handle it anymore and I told my wife. It’s been 2 since I told her. I have just now started hormones. How would you feel in this situation.
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A completely different situation. What I think, which is just "It's between you two. Best of luck", doesn't matter. It's what you and your wife work out. What anyone else thinks is irrelevant IMO.
My purpose in presenting this situation is to maybe understand how my wife is feeling. She is a loving woman and supports me through everything. But I don’t want her to resent me.
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Let me present a different situation. Although it’s very similar in some ways. This is actually the situation I’m in currently. I have been married to my wife for 12 years now. I knew at age 6 that I wasn’t male. Although I was born male. Out of fear I hide this about myself for 36 years. I never intended on telling anyone. But after 36 years I couldn’t handle it anymore and I told my wife. It’s been 2 since I told her. I have just now started hormones. How would you feel in this situation.
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I wouldn't be in that situation. lol JK
It would depend on the situation, the relationship and so on. If for example my wife (of 22 years) came to me with a similar scenario, for one I would be hurt given that in all those years she did not love or trust me enough to talk to me on that level. Of course you cannot blame her (or me) if one of us cannot accept the new you as a partner. Some partners may be willing (I have seen some) but (unless their assholes) you cannot hold anything against them if they do not want to continue a relationship. It is after all their choice.
But I assume that you two stayed together? If so thats great I hope you have many more years together.
Let's imagine that you had sex with a "woman", and "she" only told you about her trans-ness after you had slept with her. What would your reaction be?
Let's be honest.
Let's imagine that you had sex with a "woman", and "she" only told you about her trans-ness after you had slept with her. What would your reaction be?
Let's be honest.
Let's imagine that you had sex with a "woman", and "she" only told you about her trans-ness after you had slept with her. What would your reaction be?
Let's be honest.
In other words, your only sister had a brother, but now she has a sister instead.Let's imagine that you had sex with a "woman", and "she" only told you about her trans-ness after you had slept with her. What would your reaction be?
Let's be honest.
So since there was no phallus like organ when you slept with the hypothetical in question, how does the phallophobia come into play?I'm not transphobic, but I can be pretty phallophobic if it catches me off-guard.
Out of sight, out of mind.
Surprise.Let's imagine that you had sex with a "woman", and "she" only told you about her trans-ness after you had slept with her. What would your reaction be?
Let's be honest.
So since there was no phallus like organ when you slept with the hypothetical in question, how does the phallophobia come into play?
No. I am a cis-woman.
So basically pre op could be a problem but post op is fine?It wouldn't come into play, at all. If she gets around to telling me, it'll be good to know.
So basically pre op could be a problem but post op is fine?
Let's imagine that you had sex with a "woman", and "she" only told you about her trans-ness after you had slept with her. What would your reaction be?
Let's be honest.
Let's imagine that you had sex with a "woman", and "she" only told you about her trans-ness after you had slept with her. What would your reaction be?
Let's be honest.
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