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Had a long talk with my daughter in the military. I won't post about that much about that anymore. But this is interesting as a sociological topic, not just a military one.
If you assembled 1,000 random adults and ask people to "guess the one you think has killed the most enemy - not counting not specific targeted artillery and bombing - more one on one-ish?" They'd go thru at least half before guessing her. She's not butch looking or square shoulders, doesn't look tough. Cute. Not petite but not a pound over weight. Is young and looks a bit younger than she is. Her tats tell another story - military and tough but feminine. Otherwise, no clue. But it almost certainly is her as the correct guess - even a Seal team, special ops team and a sniper duo was in that 1000.
They'd pick me quick - tough, stern and hardened looking middle aged guy. Scars. Tall. Still a fair amount of noticeable muscularity. I've never been in the military.
Anyway... She had given me a cap with her branch of service and one of her areas of action (often in combat, many theaters known and unknown.) This is a very, very pro military area, lots of retirees and a lot of those were in the military. Everywhere I went wearing that cap I would be told "Thank you for your service" and many adding asking what theater of combat was I in? So I stopped wearing it.
What is funny is she said she stopped wearing that same cap too also for what people constantly said to her.
What would people say to her wearing that cap? "Thank your husband for his service. How long has he been in?"
Of course, it must be a man - her husband since she has on a wedding ring, right? However, for anything she'd done in the military, she's been the first woman in that area of duty. Interesting how easily people draw conclusions on appearance and a person's sex. So not her husband, right?
It also would not possibly cross their mind that she's married to another woman, not a man, who also is in the military. She just answers how long her spouse has been in not clarifying the gender. Why get into a discussion or argument with people you don't know? Just acknowledge their support of the military with a "thank you" and left it go.
We both were laughing pretty hard. Both of us had stopped wearing the cap due to misconceptions about appearances and gender - her and I both.
If you assembled 1,000 random adults and ask people to "guess the one you think has killed the most enemy - not counting not specific targeted artillery and bombing - more one on one-ish?" They'd go thru at least half before guessing her. She's not butch looking or square shoulders, doesn't look tough. Cute. Not petite but not a pound over weight. Is young and looks a bit younger than she is. Her tats tell another story - military and tough but feminine. Otherwise, no clue. But it almost certainly is her as the correct guess - even a Seal team, special ops team and a sniper duo was in that 1000.
They'd pick me quick - tough, stern and hardened looking middle aged guy. Scars. Tall. Still a fair amount of noticeable muscularity. I've never been in the military.
Anyway... She had given me a cap with her branch of service and one of her areas of action (often in combat, many theaters known and unknown.) This is a very, very pro military area, lots of retirees and a lot of those were in the military. Everywhere I went wearing that cap I would be told "Thank you for your service" and many adding asking what theater of combat was I in? So I stopped wearing it.
What is funny is she said she stopped wearing that same cap too also for what people constantly said to her.
What would people say to her wearing that cap? "Thank your husband for his service. How long has he been in?"
Of course, it must be a man - her husband since she has on a wedding ring, right? However, for anything she'd done in the military, she's been the first woman in that area of duty. Interesting how easily people draw conclusions on appearance and a person's sex. So not her husband, right?
It also would not possibly cross their mind that she's married to another woman, not a man, who also is in the military. She just answers how long her spouse has been in not clarifying the gender. Why get into a discussion or argument with people you don't know? Just acknowledge their support of the military with a "thank you" and left it go.
We both were laughing pretty hard. Both of us had stopped wearing the cap due to misconceptions about appearances and gender - her and I both.
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