I think that's awesome, bud. And I would be the last person in here to attempt to paint the Church in a negative light. However, as Christians, we understand that we can never be perfect, that we are going to mess up, and often. The Crusades and the Inquisition are famous examples of that, and ones often quoted by Christians because the time since makes it somewhat more comfortable to admit. But residential schools for Native kids operated until the 90's up here, and some denominations still advocate for sending their gay children to conversion therapy. And that doesn't even begin to address some of the problematic, weaponized version of our faith some denominations practice.
Under-celebrating works and over scrutinizing sin is pretty Biblical. The attitude we face today didn't take shape in a vacuum. We need to own our contributions to the current state, and do what we can to fix them. Given our practice of repentance, this shouldn't be all that controversial. Yes, the Church does great works, can have a great impact on the communities where they are located, and fund a lot of things that serve Christians and non-Christians alike. But only Christ is perfect, and even He couldn't pull that off while he was here...must be something in the water.
Sorry if my writing style is a little too flippant, I really appreciated your response, and I'm sorry about your Dad. I come from a church that does that sort of thing as well, and it's a great witness, often better than all the sermons in the world - works often speak louder than words, as it were.