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My wife took a nasty fall. Bruised ribs, sprained wrist and she broke both ankles.

She's 55. And I am still working. So is she.

AS one who had a ligament rip apart in her ankle... Epsom Salt, warm epsom salt. After the swelling has gone down some. Before that, ice buckets. COLD? Yes. But so worth.
 
AS one who had a ligament rip apart in her ankle... Epsom Salt, warm epsom salt. After the swelling has gone down some. Before that, ice buckets. COLD? Yes. But so worth.

I went out and bought several cold/hot packs. We are in the cold mode for a while. They are helping a great deal. That and vodka for me. Ha ha
 
if you were not available to be her primary caregiver, say on assignment to china, would they still have sent her home to tend to herself in your absence
and if not, why are they leaning on you to care for her
 
if you were not available to be her primary caregiver, say on assignment to china, would they still have sent her home to tend to herself in your absence
and if not, why are they leaning on you to care for her


We haven't requested help yet because the insurance company was not available just yet. First thing manana.
 
To start get a knee scooter. It will really help her get around. The DR should write a prescription for it. Use the pain pills so she can heal. As each day goes by she will feel a bit better and be able to get around a little easier. Best of luck for speedy healing.

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I bought one of those used for $250 on Craig's list and sold it when I was done for $250. Just don't get too frisky and go too fast... Like I did... crash! Ouch. Only my head and my pride, no damage!
 
In order to stay home to care for your wife. She is bed ridden, any effort she makes could make her injuries worse.
 
I know what you mean about the shortness of breath. When I walk the dog, three low incline hills in all directions from my front door. I also have to rest and catch my breath when I reach the top of any of three hills, and I have to rest my leg, or I get muscle spasms. It now takes me about 30 minutes to walk three blocks up to the main shopping district. A walk that used to take me 8 minutes with timeouts for the dog checking doggy mail. I walk about two miles every morning with the dog, take a swim at the club 3 of those mornings, and stop for coffee at a local joint by the LIRR station to shoot the s**t with other old men from the neighborhood indulging in similar activities. Not a bad way to keep the ear to the ground.

Now I am not your doctor but I suggest you discuss these possibilities with your doctor because of the symptoms you are expressing. Hiatal hernias are common for those of us past age 60. The symptom is chronic acid reflux. Combined with meds getting stuck in the hernia pocket, it could explain what you are feeling. Most hiatal hernias need no treatment. The answer is taking your meds with more water to wash them through the system. Try it an see if it works. If not it can also be treated with a med, and rarely, minor surgery with no pain, accessed through the mouth and throat while you are sleeping on valium. Valium is produced by the human liver and is very safe.

Fluid retention could be causing that pressure in your chest. Doctors do not know if that water retention comes before, during or after congestive heart disease. But if untreated it can cause kidney issues, and kidney issues can cause fluid retention. It can cause further heart disease, and sometime is evidenced by swollen feet and ankles, water on the ankles, sometimes not. A simple diuretic can be the answer, also lower blood pressure, and ease stress on the heart. You'll find you will now have something in common with toddlers, frequent urination and the need to nap more often. Napping is good for you. Take those walks, and use a walking stick, not a cane, a walking stick, good for beating kids and women offended because you complimented their looks. As in the Quiet Man, when the older lady says "Here's good stick to beat the pretty lady." Maureen O'Hara was fortunate that John Wayne didn't believe in raising his hands to women. When you take those walks, remember you are not in race. It doesn't matter how fast or slow you are moving, just keep moving until you need to rest. All's fine, enjoy the beauty that surrounds you, things you've always taken for granted. Just don't walk in high hot humidity, heavy rains, icy conditions or snow. Too slippery, and the precipitation and humidity labors breathing.

My friend Bruce, a few months older than me, walks around asking, "How did I get so old? How did I get so fat. My life sucks because I have congestive heart disease and can't catch my breath. It sucks because I can no longer eat whatever I want. Young girls are no longer attracted to me. Life sucks." I remind him young girls were never attracted to him, and he could easily live to 100 or longer with congestive heart disease, stop eating one meal daily, all day, he won't be so fat. He growls. Then he says, "I'm going home to listen to the Grateful Dead, the Rolling Stones, and Led Zeppelin. Thank god for geriatric rock and porn on cable demand."
Just damn. Helluva story.
 
Anyone ever had to deal with a similar situation? Looking for ideas.

One break will allow for weight bearing, the other none. She's in a boot on the better foot, the other we go in Tuesday to get a cast. Putting weight on the boot is still very painful. Getting up and down is extremely difficult. Bathing, going to the bathroom. All huge challenges.

Anyone have ideas? Thanks.
Sorry to hear that! Do you have any family nearby that can help for a while?
 
Just damn. Helluva story.

People go through much worse in this life. We all have our personal horror stories.

I'm most thankful for the pleasures of family and friends I still enjoy. I have no complaints, merely consider it all a miracle to have survived this long.

I tell doctors, nothing they do for me matters. I know how I will die. A toilet seat will fall out of the sky and hit me in the head. Game over, at least for the moment. If death were all that bad, everyone wouldn't do it. And we all do as far as I know. :)
 
Anyone ever had to deal with a similar situation? Looking for ideas.

One break will allow for weight bearing, the other none. She's in a boot on the better foot, the other we go in Tuesday to get a cast. Putting weight on the boot is still very painful. Getting up and down is extremely difficult. Bathing, going to the bathroom. All huge challenges.

Anyone have ideas? Thanks.

OMG, I am so sorry to hear this. Any one of those injuries would be painful and debilitating, but both ankles and one wrist will make even doing simple tasks very difficult. Ask the doctor when the cast is put on if the "good" wrist will be available to help her use crutches; she may need a wheelchair for a while. Sponge Baths, obviously, which are efficient enough for hygiene but very annoying. See if Medicare/Insurance will spring for in-home visiting nurse-practitioner to assist her in her personal grooming. The bathroom she could possibly handle if she can control a "portable" wheelchair, and leverage herself to the commode and back. Once her ankle has been put in a cast, the cast itself may be a godsend in helping her move from chair to bed to chair, etc.

You'll both be in my thoughts; I'm so sorry she's going through this.
 
Anytime you injure your feet it's wise to rest, elevate the feet, and use hot and warm compresses.

Also, use pain relievers as you need them and don't wait for the pain to become intense, otherwise you end up chasing it for days. That goes for any kind of pain for older folks - like my Dad when his knees hurt.

Can't give enough "Likes" for that one. Once the pain gets "bad", it's really hard to reel it back in.
 
My in-laws are helping. Especially with meals.

I just happened across this thread. It looks like your wife ended up in two casts? Can she bear weight on the "less" injured foot? Can she use the knee scooter yet? Is insurance helping at all with in-home care? That's good you have her parents to help out too.

I hope she is on the mend and you are managing to hold up, TC. Good luck and my best wishes to you both.
 
I just happened across this thread. It looks like your wife ended up in two casts? Can she bear weight on the "less" injured foot? Can she use the knee scooter yet? Is insurance helping at all with in-home care? That's good you have her parents to help out too.

I hope she is on the mend and you are managing to hold up, TC. Good luck and my best wishes to you both.

She gets 2 new casts Thursday. She is able to pivot on her left cast, no weight allowed in the right. In the next few weeks she goes to a boot on her left, cast stays on the right for 3 more weeks, then a boot. Subsequently she will not be driving for some time. When she transitions to a boot on her left, we will try a scooter.

Each day it takes abut an hour or so for me to get her ready for her day. Starting with making her a latte. I then transfer her to a wheelchair from her hospital bed. Wheel her into the bathroom. Help her clean up. Change her incontinence underwear. Change out the bedding, prepare her lift chair. Make her breakfast, set up her "Command Center". So she has access to phones, computers (work and home laptops), TV remote, lunch and snack items etc. Make sure she has plenty of water. Then I head off to work myself.

When I return we repeat some of the same steps with a bath/shower every 2nd day. That is quite a challenge.

Rinse later repeat. My in-laws come over during the day to freshen up her water and food.

No caregiver so far. And I am getting worn out. But the lift chair has been the game changer. My back is feeling much better

It could be a lot worse. She will mend.

We were to leave for a month long trip to Europe on the 10th of July. I am thankful we bought travel insurance.
 
She gets 2 new casts Thursday. She is able to pivot on her left cast, no weight allowed in the right. In the next few weeks she goes to a boot on her left, cast stays on the right for 3 more weeks, then a boot. Subsequently she will not be driving for some time. When she transitions to a boot on her left, we will try a scooter.

Each day it takes abut an hour or so for me to get her ready for her day. Starting with making her a latte. I then transfer her to a wheelchair from her hospital bed. Wheel her into the bathroom. Help her clean up. Change her incontinence underwear. Change out the bedding, prepare her lift chair. Make her breakfast, set up her "Command Center". So she has access to phones, computers (work and home laptops), TV remote, lunch and snack items etc. Make sure she has plenty of water. Then I head off to work myself.

When I return we repeat some of the same steps with a bath/shower every 2nd day. That is quite a challenge.

Rinse later repeat. My in-laws come over during the day to freshen up her water and food.

No caregiver so far. And I am getting worn out. But the lift chair has been the game changer. My back is feeling much better

It could be a lot worse. She will mend.

We were to leave for a month long trip to Europe on the 10th of July. I am thankful we bought travel insurance.

Oh man, TC. I feel for you and your wife. That is so much to face every morning, for the both of you. You are such a sweetheart to start out her day by making her a latte! Kudos to you! You're lucky to have your in-laws to come over during the day too.

I don't want to be intrusive, but I'll brave it. No care-giver? Even respite care? Some insurances don't provide coverage until a certain period has passed. I just hoping you make get more help. You have to take care of yourself too. Maybe it will get easier when she can use the scooter.

Yay you guys! So glad you had travel insurance, that takes some of the sting out of missing out on a month-long trip to Europe. Sorry that you had to cancel it, though.

Sounds like she has several more weeks of healing before she can manage on her own at home. Hang in there, TC.
 
Can't give enough "Likes" for that one. Once the pain gets "bad", it's really hard to reel it back in.

The other aspect of pain that is sometimes missed is that it usually causes one to tense the nearby muscles. That acts to make any inflammation of the area worse. I'd say that if your stomach can handle it (mine can't anymore) use anti inflammatories along with the pain meds.

Anything that can be done to keep the muscles in the area strong - do it. I know that's a lot easier said than done.
 
Oh man, TC. I feel for you and your wife. That is so much to face every morning, for the both of you. You are such a sweetheart to start out her day by making her a latte! Kudos to you! You're lucky to have your in-laws to come over during the day too.

I don't want to be intrusive, but I'll brave it. No care-giver? Even respite care? Some insurances don't provide coverage until a certain period has passed. I just hoping you make get more help. You have to take care of yourself too. Maybe it will get easier when she can use the scooter.

Yay you guys! So glad you had travel insurance, that takes some of the sting out of missing out on a month-long trip to Europe. Sorry that you had to cancel it, though.

Sounds like she has several more weeks of healing before she can manage on her own at home. Hang in there, TC.

Thanks Gina. Since it was an accident at an AIRBNB, our healthcare won't spring for a caregiver. AIRBNB has a million dollar liability policy. But working with them is an absolute nightmare. We are tempted to go the lawyer route.

I make her a latte to go most work mornings. I write a little love note on it. Its a big hit during her meetings. Her co-workers tease her about having a barista boyfriend!
 
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The other aspect of pain that is sometimes missed is that it usually causes one to tense the nearby muscles. That acts to make any inflammation of the area worse. I'd say that if your stomach can handle it (mine can't anymore) use anti inflammatories along with the pain meds.

Anything that can be done to keep the muscles in the area strong - do it. I know that's a lot easier said than done.

One of the challenges of nsaids is the possibility of them interfering with the healing process.
 
Wheel chair for the time being?
 
Thanks Gina. Since it was an accident at an AIRBNB, our healthcare won't spring for a caregiver. AIRBNB has a million dollar liability policy. But working with them is an absolute nightmare. We are tempted to go the lawyer route.

I make her a latte to go most work mornings. I write a little love note on it. Its a big hit during her meetings. Her co-workers tease her about having a barista boyfriend!

Dang! They suck! I hope you don't have to go the lawyer route and they just "get reasonable" and take responsibility for it. But, if ya have to ya have to.

Awwwwwwww. That's so cute! :) You're a wonderful husband. The teasing has to lift her spirits. Again, kudos!
 
One of the challenges of nsaids is the possibility of them interfering with the healing process.

That's true. It's all about balancing. I had to stop using them because of the damage they do to your GI tract.

Best of luck to you, your wife and family.
 
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