- Jul 19, 2012
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- Political Leaning
The current political climate around courtship and interactions between the sexes is more powerful than the market forces that are replacing jobs, because escalating costs aren’t transparent and neither is the punishment for not paying them. If a business owner wants to adhere to employment laws, he reads them, the costs of courtship are codified nowhere.
The average single man paying attention to contemporary social fashions will struggle to understand the new rules of meeting, courting, or having sex with women. Something as banal as trying to converse with a woman wearing headphones is now often considered harassment. A man’s chances of mating success increase when he approaches many women, but so too do his chances of a gaining reputation as sexist, exploitative, or immoral. To take a fraught example, how does a man know that a woman is genuinely consenting to sex? A lack of ability to pick up on cues can incur catastrophic costs.
Men high in conscientiousness, who are sensitive to social disapproval but who nonetheless have difficulty reading subtle social cues, could make good husbands for women. These men are unlikely to want to take the risk of approaching women. As substitutes like sex robots and virtual companions become better and cheaper, they will monopolize the attention of such men.
It is not surprising that some feminists want to campaign against the threat of sexbots replacing women. Sociological research tells us that in a surplus of women, which sexbots would simulate, fewer men are interested, and the standards of the women fall accordingly. They have more sex with more men trying to compete. Thus the feminist desire to tell men how they ought to be under pain of not having their desires fulfilled founders on the prospect of being routed around. Sex is now fraught with hazards for men because of ideology, so men build alternatives and bargaining power dissipates.