So a person should just accept an unhappy relationship because "being an adult isnt always happy"? That's....a horribly depressing thought.
This is a strawman. I never suggested such. If your relationship is unhappy, do the best you can to fix it. Don't just walk away. Further, happiness is transient. You can cultivate it inside your soul, but if you expect a relationship or another person to provide this for you, you're doomed to disappointment. It doesn't work like that.
Being an adult is tough stuff. It means dealing with disappointment, upsets, and occasionally, unhappiness.
Sometimes, relationships are unfixable. I would never suggest that a woman or man remain in a relationship where there is violence, abuse, or chronic infidelity.. On the other hand, I see people get married with unrealistic expectations all the time and then throw up their hands because they are unwilling to engage in the standard self-sacrifice and work that maintaining a relationship requires.
Your posts are filled with...for lack of a better word...CRAP...that suggests that you have little real world experience with adulthood and the demands of marriage.
To clarify: My happiness or lack thereof is not dependent upon another person. It is entirely dependent on me, as an adult. Whether I am happy/fulfilled is dependent on me.
The fact that perfectly healthy individuals can come out of blended families and very screwed up ones can come out of nuclear families and vice versa. This indicates there are FAR more factors at play than just the presence of a mother and father. But all factors being equal, there is no logical reason children brought up in blended families do any better or worse than children brought up in nuclear families, assuming all other factors are the same.
There are always statistical anomalies. I asked you to prove your contention: That blended or polyamorous families are more/as successful as monogamous families. Relying on statistical anomalies is not evidence. Kids grow up in all kinds of horrific circumstances, but that doesn't mean that those circumstances are good for kids, or are the ideal we should be striving for.
The evidence is that MANY people have these kinds of relationships and their relationship still exists. The fact that such relationships DO exist is proof of concept.
I don't think you understand the concept of evidence. What percentage of these relationships split up? is this higher or lower than monogamous couples? What are the outcomes with children?
The simple fact of the matter is broken relationships expose children to increased risk. Children whose parents divorce suffer multiple problems. The more adults you add to that equation, the greater the possibility of further trauma.
Beyond that, raising children is a difficult, frustrating task, and it is even more frustrating if they aren't your biological offspring:
Young children who live in households with one or more unrelated adults are nearly 50 times as likely to die from an inflicted injury, usually being shaken or struck, as children living with two biologic parents, report researchers from the University of Missouri-Columbia and the University of Chicago in the November 2005 issue of the journal Pediatrics. Unrelated adults in the home associated with child-abuse deaths - University of Chicago Medical Center
I dont dispute any of that, however I dont see what it has to do with the OP.
Your contention is that polyamory or other similar relationships aren't detrimental to children. The evidence suggests (strongly) that you are inaccurate. Like I said...the best situation for children is two married, monogamous parents without assorted lovers/slaves/boyfriends/girlfriends, etc. to cause disruption.
Y'know, you CAN talk to someone WITHOUT being a huge jerk. It IS possible.
Your posts demonstrate sloppy thinking and a narcissistic worldview. I'm not going to apologize for dismantling it, even if that is painful for you.