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Looking back, people are the enemy of hapiness.

As I approach 40, I realize so many choices I made were trying to make others happy. To not disappoint family, people I respected. Maybe it was fear of loss, after mom died I think I was scared to lose more. I don't really know. The only person whose opinion matters now is my wife. She has been the anchor my life needed, the boost my heart yearned for. Everyone else held me back.

I married young and signed up for the Navy because I thought "this is what I have to do". My son turned 16 last night and all I could think was: "Am I guiding him towards good choices or fencing him into what I want?"

A fine line to be sure a parent must walk. You want the best for your offspring, but you have to let them make the call on what that really is. A lesson I learned all to late in life. People, don't make good decisions for others.

Let advise guide youn but not rule you.
 

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Very wise. :thumbs:
 

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People aren't the enemy of happiness: they are essential for happiness. Nobody can be happy living in complete isolation from everyone else.
 

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DifferentDrummr;bt3072 said:
People aren't the enemy of happiness: they are essential for happiness. Nobody can be happy living in complete isolation from everyone else.
I didn't imply isolationism, rather letting others push you from whatyouwant. Your dreams.
 

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MrVicchio;bt3075 said:
I didn't imply isolationism, rather letting others push you from whatyouwant. Your dreams.

In that case, I agree. If a person has dreams and is serious about working to fulfill them, they should pay no attention to those who try to discourage them.
 

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I'm fast approaching 40 myself. (July 20) I learned everything you said here at a very early age so guess I'm lucky I didn't have to go through what you did. Probably a product of my folks moving around as much as they did and me being a people watcher.
 

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As a person who is past 40, you're right. People suck.
 
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