I'd been suspecting it since last fall. Tonight I couldn't hold it in any longer. I told Tom I knew he was seeing someone else. It's a lady he met at the village walking track. I met her one time in fall at a beer tasting event.
Funny the things that tip off a woman. First, he lost weight. Started letting his hair grow hippy length. Bought some new clothes. All things that may cause a woman to go, "Hmmmm..."
Tom said, back last fall, "Want to go to the Park District beer tasting event?" He told me it started at a Tavern near our house and then the group walked to the brewery about a mile-and-a-half away. I can't walk that far. Tom knows that. But I know he likes beer. I've been the biggest party pooper of his life lately. So I said, "Know what? I'll start at the bar with ya'all and then you can walk with the group and I'll drive and meet you there!"
Tom was completely alone on the walk. And I noticed a woman completely alone as well. She stayed completely alone at the tasting, and, when we got BACK to the bar, she sat next to him.
I introduced myself...made some small talk. Tom was between us. And in a little bit, When we ordered another drink (I paid because Tom bought the tickets.) I told Tom I wanted to buy her a drink.
Funny the things that give husbands (SOs) away. I "knew" when he casually leaned over to her and said, "She wants to buy you a drink." Don't know why that was telltale, but it was.
So for months I've just sort of watched. And then it became clear. I was right. And this evening I brought it up when he got back from the track his second tome today . . . always 7 am and 4:30 . . . Always a few hours except weekends when "the whole group" supposedly goes to McDonald's. Then he's gone three or four.
"You know I know, don't you? Marta, right? I didn't want you to think I was stupid." We haven't talked. But he didnt deny it.
Deep breaths. Broken heart. More later.
Funny the things that tip off a woman. First, he lost weight. Started letting his hair grow hippy length. Bought some new clothes. All things that may cause a woman to go, "Hmmmm..."
Tom said, back last fall, "Want to go to the Park District beer tasting event?" He told me it started at a Tavern near our house and then the group walked to the brewery about a mile-and-a-half away. I can't walk that far. Tom knows that. But I know he likes beer. I've been the biggest party pooper of his life lately. So I said, "Know what? I'll start at the bar with ya'all and then you can walk with the group and I'll drive and meet you there!"
Tom was completely alone on the walk. And I noticed a woman completely alone as well. She stayed completely alone at the tasting, and, when we got BACK to the bar, she sat next to him.
I introduced myself...made some small talk. Tom was between us. And in a little bit, When we ordered another drink (I paid because Tom bought the tickets.) I told Tom I wanted to buy her a drink.
Funny the things that give husbands (SOs) away. I "knew" when he casually leaned over to her and said, "She wants to buy you a drink." Don't know why that was telltale, but it was.
So for months I've just sort of watched. And then it became clear. I was right. And this evening I brought it up when he got back from the track his second tome today . . . always 7 am and 4:30 . . . Always a few hours except weekends when "the whole group" supposedly goes to McDonald's. Then he's gone three or four.
"You know I know, don't you? Marta, right? I didn't want you to think I was stupid." We haven't talked. But he didnt deny it.
Deep breaths. Broken heart. More later.