That would not have worked for me. My parents tried several other things with zero results. I had no social life so that wasn't something they could take away. I didn't really have any "toys" other than books, so that wasn't an option. I spent most of my time in my room by personal choice. Outside of corporal punishment there really weren't any other options. Personally, I'm glad they were as strict and disciplinarian as they were.
Then they, and you, got lucky.
With me there was no other option. It was just that simple/
On that we will have to agree to disagree. In fact marriage is the main example of a properly unequal partnership.
The environment I was taught, and which my experience have shown me, to be proper.
THAT is not what marriage is, so far as I'm concerned. Congratulations to the two of you, but that is not the sort of relationship I would ever want to be involved in. What I advocate is not a "Taken in Hand" marriage, or anything where physical discipline is a common event. However, it must be an available option, or other forms of discipline have no weight.
Still a better time period than the one we currently live in.
Therein lies YOUR problem with it.