- Feb 27, 2016
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This is something I'll never understanding around current laws, in the US at least. If a mother doesn't want to become a parent she doesn't have to. She can kill a child and walk away with a clean slate.
Flip it around and it's a completely different story. If a man doesn't want to become a parent, tough luck. The woman can decide to keep the baby and the man is legally forced to pay alimony. That's a direct contradiction to pro-"choice". You're only letting the woman have a choice while completely ignoring the choice of a man.
It's also a violation of the "my body, my choice" argument. Forcing a man to pay alimony is dictating what he can and can't do with this body. That alimony would come from the effort of his labour. His hands flipping burgers. He'd likely have to take up more hours at work in order to be able to afford the alimony payments and maintain the same standard of living for himself. That's a violation of his bodily autonomy, is it not?
It's hard to deny that women get the better end of the deal when it comes to sex and parent planning. It really makes it impossible to swallow the whole "male privilege" myth.
What are your thoughts?
First of all, you don't understand US law. A woman doesn't have a right to kill her child and walk away. Happy to help with that.
On the topic of alimony - I personally never needed it as I am a worker and take pride in my job. Child support on the other hand was a godsend when my girl was little. Child care is expensive and the child support I got allowed me to work so that I didn't need alimony. When my ex-husband had hard times and fell into arrears, I waived the back support because he was a decent father who helped in a lot of other ways and paid more than the court mandated amount when he had it. Women will often do that when a man is a decent person and a caring father and helps with other things besides just monetarily. If a man wants to be a father so badly, he should look for a monogamous relationship with a partner who is ready for parenthood and welcomes it. This can be done by working on yourself and becoming a better person.