Must be nice to be a lark. 95% of the world works like that.
Part of the reason why I was triggered is because this conversation is exactly the one (almost word-for-word) of what my corporate supervisor was saying before I quit. I had massive PTSD after that. I would really like to not have PTSD from my brother if it can be avoided.
They redesigned my job without my input (maybe a token glance in my direction), took me off of everything I was skilled at, and then said, "Change is constant." Yeah, but if you change my job to something I don't have the skills for and/or I'm supposed to design when you've told me that what I'm good at/have the skills for I'm not supposed to do... ? (If I was guessing, they wanted me for some middle manager or leadership position, aka, be more like them. I do not have the skills or mental stamina to manage people in any capacity)
My approach is, think of it as designing a house. You have the basement/trap door. That's where all the comfortable things are, the things that are (in my case) actually bad for your progress. Then, you need to the first floor to pave over the trap door. You kind of keep a loose stone or two over the trap door, but generally you've paved over it and it's hard to open. Then, you need the supports in your life to be ready to support you and catch you when stuff goes south or you fail. You gradually build that house.
I mean, this is the year I actually have a positive, working relationship with my mother. She's a rock-solid support all of a sudden (
). Getting a job would be the second floor now that the supports are in.
Oh, and for someone with Asperger's like myself, a job is, by definition uncomfortable.
Thank you for your kind words!