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As my fiance and I are moving along with our wedding planning for next year, we have come to three decisions that we have a feeling are going to be less than totally well recieved by some of the wedding guests.
#1. We will give everyone one (1) drink ticket for the bar and then it will be up to them to pay for anything else they want to drink during the reception, other than the non-alcoholic toast. We came to this decision because there are a handful of individuals on both sides who have a tendency to "enjoy" their alcohol a little too much but who will be unwilling or unable to pay for it themselves; thus largely removing the potential for them to create trouble during the reception.
#2. We are asking all attendees (other than small children) to be dressed in a semi-formal manner (jackets/ties/slacks for gentlemen and skirt/blouse or dress for women). While this may sound strange to some, as that is SOP when attending a wedding, there are parts of my fiance's family for whom this needs to be spelled out.
#3. With the exception of immediate family, we are requesting that couples with children leave the young ones at home for the day. Even with just immediate family there will be close to a score of children at a wedding where the entire attendance will barely break one hundred (100). Considering the unwillingness or inability of certain people to keep an eye on their kids, we just don't want them their.
This will all be spelled out very politely in the invitations when they go out next spring. We already know that there are certain people who will decline to attend due to these expectations. My question to you folks is this.....
It's Our/HER day, obviously; but would you be offended by any of those three expectations if they were to come in a wedding invitation you received?
#1. We will give everyone one (1) drink ticket for the bar and then it will be up to them to pay for anything else they want to drink during the reception, other than the non-alcoholic toast. We came to this decision because there are a handful of individuals on both sides who have a tendency to "enjoy" their alcohol a little too much but who will be unwilling or unable to pay for it themselves; thus largely removing the potential for them to create trouble during the reception.
#2. We are asking all attendees (other than small children) to be dressed in a semi-formal manner (jackets/ties/slacks for gentlemen and skirt/blouse or dress for women). While this may sound strange to some, as that is SOP when attending a wedding, there are parts of my fiance's family for whom this needs to be spelled out.
#3. With the exception of immediate family, we are requesting that couples with children leave the young ones at home for the day. Even with just immediate family there will be close to a score of children at a wedding where the entire attendance will barely break one hundred (100). Considering the unwillingness or inability of certain people to keep an eye on their kids, we just don't want them their.
This will all be spelled out very politely in the invitations when they go out next spring. We already know that there are certain people who will decline to attend due to these expectations. My question to you folks is this.....
It's Our/HER day, obviously; but would you be offended by any of those three expectations if they were to come in a wedding invitation you received?