Because of #3, I think everyone should stay away and leave her and you alone so you are not bothered on your special day.
Answer this: Why would anyone want to come to your wedding with such an attitude?
Since you appear to have such open contempt for her culture and family, I do not anticipate a happy home after marriage. She, ultimately, will likely side with her family against you in my opinion.
To answer your question, I would stay away because of the list, other than #1, is so narcisstic and offensive I really wouldn't want come to a wedding where I am only a stage prop to wear the costume you want. I generally do not speak for my wife, but she would find #3 so despicable she not only wouldn't come, she would want nothing to do with either of you again. But, then, she really likes children and would in general have a low opinion of any parent who left their children behind to attend the wedding of 2 people - or at least 1 - who openly intensely despises children.
You seem to think you're doing a favor allowing some people to come to your wedding. You got it entirely wrong. I think your bride might be shocked at how few people show up. "We hate children" is going to offend many people, whether they have children or not. And if you can't stand children, you have no business marrying someone who by your messages is greatly into Latino culture. IT IS ABOUT FAMILY. That means children.
I can give an exact analogy from this last weekend when a bride had a list of rules about attending her shower. The result? Basically no one when that we know who was invited. And now the couple is concerned how few are going to come to the wedding.