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I have this cousin, John, that I have been doing things with lately. John is 54 y/o, a Christian, a good man, a hard worker, and never been married. His only real issue is he's a little socially awkward (not special needs). Other than that, he's an average guy in every sense of term when it comes to his personality. He'll occasionally come with me to the ballroom studio I go to and meet up for dinner on Thursday nights with my family and their friends. Needless to say, two single guys going out and having fun together. However, there is this woman that he really likes and has known her for sometime. I pretty sure that she's not into him.
I finally got to meet this woman, named Angela. She's 43 y/o, tall, a nurse, was a dance instructor, sings in a duet group, and, supposedly, a Christian. We went down to the town where we watched her sing. Along the way, I had asked other questions about her, and John had told me that guys are always chasing her, and she was married at one time. More specifically, she's divorced and he doesn't know how that happened. Afterwards, she had been in a few other relationships with other guys and had traveled quite a bit. Recently, John had finally said to her that he wants to be more than just friends and would like to go out with her. Her response was that she had to work out some things, first, with an ex-bf. Already a sign saying 'no, let's stay friends.'
We arrive at the place Angela is singing and I can already see why John likes her, as far as on a physical level. Whenever she came up to talk to us when she took a break, it wasn't long. My cousin and I had a good time as the night moved on. I even got to sing with a group of ladies that were on their way out, as well as dance with a married couple for a few songs. My cousin is pretty low key and I tried to get him to join in, but he didn't. I didn't care, even as the younger crowd started coming in for their late night drinks (no, I wasn't drunk).
After the last song, we actually got to talk to Angela and the person she was singing with. Somewhere during our conversation, it was brought up that I'm taking ballroom dance lessons, and the place I go to Angela use to be an instructor there. We brought up about the different styles, and, out of the blue, we demonstrated some of the moves from the different styles I was taking. We even did a full minute of waltz, and I was trying to get John to do it instead. Still, he didn't want to, even though he invited me along and I warmed Angela up to do it. In any case, we said our goodbyes afterwards and went home.
John still didn't seem to get the hint that Angela is not that interested in him. He seems convinced that she has a greater level of attraction towards him than what she's letting on, just by these little gestures she had, supposedly, made towards him. The fact that this woman was fine with me, a stranger, to dance with her, her little interaction with John while we were at the place where she sang, and when she had told him that she had to work out things with her ex-boyfriend should have all been signs that she doesn't want anything to do with him on a romantic level.
What I'm trying to figure out is how I should break it to him without there being a damper on our friendship. Like I said before, he is a good man. However, he tells me that if she tells she's not interested, he'll back off, but I don't know if he believes that. I could go unfiltered and say she's not interested, but I don't know if that would actually do more harm than good. Or I could just let him find out on his own. I've told him about my experience with women like this and the end result of each one when I would go on my own and discover they weren't interested. Whatever the case, opinions would be appreciated.
I finally got to meet this woman, named Angela. She's 43 y/o, tall, a nurse, was a dance instructor, sings in a duet group, and, supposedly, a Christian. We went down to the town where we watched her sing. Along the way, I had asked other questions about her, and John had told me that guys are always chasing her, and she was married at one time. More specifically, she's divorced and he doesn't know how that happened. Afterwards, she had been in a few other relationships with other guys and had traveled quite a bit. Recently, John had finally said to her that he wants to be more than just friends and would like to go out with her. Her response was that she had to work out some things, first, with an ex-bf. Already a sign saying 'no, let's stay friends.'
We arrive at the place Angela is singing and I can already see why John likes her, as far as on a physical level. Whenever she came up to talk to us when she took a break, it wasn't long. My cousin and I had a good time as the night moved on. I even got to sing with a group of ladies that were on their way out, as well as dance with a married couple for a few songs. My cousin is pretty low key and I tried to get him to join in, but he didn't. I didn't care, even as the younger crowd started coming in for their late night drinks (no, I wasn't drunk).
After the last song, we actually got to talk to Angela and the person she was singing with. Somewhere during our conversation, it was brought up that I'm taking ballroom dance lessons, and the place I go to Angela use to be an instructor there. We brought up about the different styles, and, out of the blue, we demonstrated some of the moves from the different styles I was taking. We even did a full minute of waltz, and I was trying to get John to do it instead. Still, he didn't want to, even though he invited me along and I warmed Angela up to do it. In any case, we said our goodbyes afterwards and went home.
John still didn't seem to get the hint that Angela is not that interested in him. He seems convinced that she has a greater level of attraction towards him than what she's letting on, just by these little gestures she had, supposedly, made towards him. The fact that this woman was fine with me, a stranger, to dance with her, her little interaction with John while we were at the place where she sang, and when she had told him that she had to work out things with her ex-boyfriend should have all been signs that she doesn't want anything to do with him on a romantic level.
What I'm trying to figure out is how I should break it to him without there being a damper on our friendship. Like I said before, he is a good man. However, he tells me that if she tells she's not interested, he'll back off, but I don't know if he believes that. I could go unfiltered and say she's not interested, but I don't know if that would actually do more harm than good. Or I could just let him find out on his own. I've told him about my experience with women like this and the end result of each one when I would go on my own and discover they weren't interested. Whatever the case, opinions would be appreciated.