I think only once, that can actually be called genuine.
I have noticed, since long before I met her, and many times since, that any time I see an attractive woman, especially if she's at all friendly toward me, I experience a reaction that it is tempting to call “love”.
I have a theory about the concept of “love at first sight”. I think that often, two people see each other and have the reaction that I just described. They may think that it is “love”, but it really isn't. But if they act on that, spend time together, really fall in love, get married, and “live happily ever after”, if you were to ask them when they first fell in love, they would go back to that first time they saw each other, and consider that to be when it began. You would only really know that that initial reaction wasn't true love when you don't act on it, and eventually go on to fall in love with someone else; or if you were already in love, and recognize that this reaction is not what you experience with the true object of your love.
As for my one genuine instance of love, I “met” her a long time ago, on the FidoNet forums (this was a loose network of BBSes that was the center of computer geek social community long before the Internet took over that role). If you can imagine the classic stereotype of a socially-inept, desperately-lonely male nerd, and then imagine a loose social community populated nearly entirely with people of that type; of which I was probably one of the more extreme examples. You can imagine that anyone who appeared in such a community claiming to be female would attract a fair amount of attention, especially if she happened to mention that she was single and to express dissatisfaction with the romantic prospects in her home area.
It seems nothing short of a miracle to me that when a young woman by the name of Seanette Pierce appeared in that manner, in one of the FidoNet forums, that I was the one who was most successful in attracting her attention and interest toward myself. FidoNet didn't really provide any reliable means for non-public messaging, so a lot of the exchange that followed between Ms. Pierce and myself took place in the open, on this one forum, in front of all the other participants.
After several months of this, she made the trip from Reedsport, Oregon, to Santa Barbara, California, to meet me in person. Four days later, we were engaged, and a year after that…
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We've been married, now, for eighteen and a half years.