FISHX said:
The contents of the question is aimed at both males and females that have either terminated or lived through termination.
It is a somple enough question i can,t see why pro choice wouldn,t answer honestly it is the choice that they advocate so why not answer the question is it a choice they have taken and used?
Despite my gut feeling that this is a trap in which I will be inundated with hate. I will bite because I am a proud Pro-Choice advocate! And I have nothing to hide about this... So please, respect my honesty and consider that before you all start choppin'
In high school, when I and my girlfriend at the time were 17 we ended up pregnant because of hormones, drinking and the lack of a condom.
When we found out about it we both seriously considered the consiquences of keeping the child knowing that doing so would write the next 18 years of our lives as well as going through with an abortion which could result in severe damage to the uterus and as a result, hinder any future pregnancy. We went to Planned Parenthood a week after finding out to at least schedule an appointment for an abortion proceedure and get some literature about it. Of course there was a waiting period and we knew we could easily cancel the appointment if we decided to carry the pregnancy to term. There was no pressure from anyone in our families, and yes we did tell them, on either side. No one was outside of the PP clinic begging us to kill our child either.
After a couple of weeks and much stress from the decision we had on our plate, my choice was to continue with the pregnancy but my girlfriend had chosen to go through with the abortion. I could not stop her, it was her body and I offered my support of her choice. It was the least I could do. Do I feel bad about it? Yes, I do because I think it was selfish of us to put our lives ahead of the one we could make. But it was our choice, we made it and did it. There is no going back.
Years past, I turned 23 and had a new girlfriend (My girlfriend from high school and I had drifted apart shortly after graduation). We had been dating for a very little amount of time but we had grown to the point where I was staying at her apartment all the time (I was living with my brother and my girlfriend was in college). This time I wasn't going to make the same mistake of not wearing a condom... Not only for contraception but because of STDs. We lived in a bigger city than the one I grew up in, she was in college, we met in a bar. Neither one of us intended to get sick or pregnant (I include myself as pregnant because in high school I was taught that it takes 2 to make a baby so as the father I am just as responsible for the pregnancy as the mother is, I suppose that was an important part of my education. I am surpirsed that people want to ban it).
Unfortunately we were in that 0.1% category, the condom broke and we ended up pregnant. This time though the decision was easier because my girlfriend absolutely did not want the pregnancy at all, she was finishing college and felt that she was about to start her life she didn't want it during that time. And again I suggested going through with the pregnancy but she wouldn't have it and I supported her decision after that. I still feel bad but I was pretty much eliminated from the decision making process. I don't think I even finished explaining my feelings before I was cut off when my girlfriend picked up on where I was going. I had to respect her right though.
Again more years passed, my mother had a brain hemorrhage during heart surgery and she was in a coma for 2 weeks my brothers, sister and mother's boyfriend (my father died when I was 13) held a vigil over her body while she was on life support. The doctors concluded that even though they went in to drain the blood it was too late and she would never recover from the brain damage. We discontinued the life support and her body died 13 hours later. Her brain couldn't keep telling her body to breath. I believe she died in surgery some may think differently.
A couple years later I found myself married to my wife. We were in our second year of marriage and we had gotten pregnant. We intended to keep it. However the embryo attached itself to her right fallopian tube, it was an entopic pregnancy. She miscarried, we rushed to the hospital she was bleeding very badly. It was then discovered that the pregnancy had in part developed a varicose vein that ran from her tube to her uterus. She had to have a radical hysterectomy.
I have been surrounded with this my whole life and yet I am still a good natured, happy person who cares for every living thing, I don't even kill spiders.
For my ex-girlfriends, I don't know where they are now but I know my first one from high school has children.