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How Long Should a Guy Wait?? (1 Viewer)

How Long (maximum) Should a Guy Wait Until "Touchin"?

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GarzaUK

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When a guy is going out with a girl, how long is the maximum he should wait until she "puts out"?
For me (I will probably be attacked by every girl on this forum), the maximum I could wait until my mind starts to roam is 3 months. But then again I'm impatient.
 
Garza I'm surprised at you.

You didn't include the option "until it's evident that both parties know it's OK and it feels the natural and obvious thing to do next"

You assume guys never keep girls "waiting"?
Or guys keeping guys waiting? Or girls keeping girls waiting?


Mind if that's you in your avatar, I'd keep you waiting 10 minutes max. Shame I'm probably old enough to be yer mammy.
 
Well in most cases i kinda feel if a girl doesent wanna have sex with you after 2 months she doesent wanna have sex with you.

And i would pretty much just move on to the next one after a month or so because most girls will easily sleep with you within a month if you play it the right way.
 
Well I said until marraige but then I am just an old fashioned conservative
 
Urethra Franklin said:
Garza I'm surprised at you.

You didn't include the option "until it's evident that both parties know it's OK and it feels the natural and obvious thing to do next"
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Well for guys we ALWAYS feel its the natural and obvious thing to do next, all the time, 24-7. It's in our biology. lol
Urethra Franklin said:
You assume guys never keep girls "waiting"?
Or guys keeping guys waiting? Or girls keeping girls waiting?
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Of course I'm sure their are rare cases of guys keeping girls waiting. Not many tho. As for homosexual relationships, I have not experienced it, so I cannot comment. But sure, they could keep each other waiting as well. I'm afraid I didn't include homosexual relationships in this poll. :(

Urethra Franklin said:
Mind if that's you in your avatar, I'd keep you waiting 10 minutes max. Shame I'm probably old enough to be yer mammy.
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Yeah that's me in my avatar lol. :mrgreen:
 
If she's worth it, wait until she wants it.



If she's not worth it, wait one month. Why waste your time if you ain't feeling her and can't get nothing out of it.
 
If it is a girl that you might want to marry, wait as long as it takes.

If it is a girl that you just want to have sex with or date casually, then 3 dates maximum.

Girls will readily admit that they know very quickly if they would sleep with a guy or not. She will sleep with you if you take her to Burger King or out for Lobster, and ones that might actually sleep with you only because you took her to Lobster probably aren't worth the money anyway.

Why spend the time or the money "begging". What a waste. 3 dates and then move on.
 
Make out, play, have fun.
No problem.

Just do what is necessary to avoid STD’s to the best of your judgment don't do anything that risks a pregnancy until you’re engaged.
 
No more than 2 months..... If she doesn't give it up in 2 months, you aren't getting it until you get married ( which is fine if you want to wait that long ) Plus it negates the period excuse.

I would say you should try to get what you can while you can. If she's willing, take it. If not keep on movin' on. :2wave:
 
If it is ONLY about sex, don't wait any longer than a few dates. She is gonna know if she will want to jump your bones or not after a few minutes anyway. If you like her and want to date, dang... who the heck knows. Liking a girl complicates things like getting laid.

If you really like her...well, I asked my wife to marry me within 4 weeks of meeting her. We have two kids and are looking to possibly have another.
 
Awww man.... This is too easy.

Look. Be kind, respectful, be a gentleman. Take her out to dinner at a nice Italian restaurant. Order up some red wine.

Then take her to someplace fun. Girls like to have fun. Skip the ol' boring same ol' same ol'. Take her go-kart riding. Karaoke. A horse drawn carriage always works. Listen to her. Engage is conversation. Forget about yourself for a while.

Then warmly hold her hand as you walk her to her door. Then simply whisper in her ear, "Hey beotch. Wanna f*** or go for some coffee or something?" If she chooses Starbucks, you're wasting your time.
 
Lord there are some impatient guys here! Three dates?!? Why I've kept a guy waiting...umm...yeah nevermind. Three dates sounds about fine. :mrgreen: Here's how it works for moi, and all the girl friends I can remember. If I'm really into a guy, I usually can't last three dates. All that bulox about cow and milk is just a load of hoo-ey. But if I'm not into a guy, I've strung it out for a month. Ended up breaking up with him before we had sex, poor guy.

I have no idea if this helped at all. Re-reading it, probably not. If you really like the girl, talk to her about it. If you don't, well I don't know why you'd have sex with her anyway. Oh right, the guy thing. Then a couple weeks I guess.
 
Captain America said:
Awww man.... This is too easy.

Look. Be kind, respectful, be a gentleman. Take her out to dinner at a nice Italian restaurant. Order up some red wine.

Then take her to someplace fun. Girls like to have fun. Skip the ol' boring same ol' same ol'. Take her go-kart riding. Karaoke. A horse drawn carriage always works. Listen to her. Engage is conversation. Forget about yourself for a while.

Then warmly hold her hand as you walk her to her door. Then simply whisper in her ear, "Hey beotch. Wanna f*** or go for some coffee or something?" If she chooses Starbucks, you're wasting your time.
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I concur.

Man Law!
 
Not to threadjack, but this does relate. In responding to this poll, does your post represent your actual position on dating and sexuality and how you behave/behaved? Or is your response more of a 'in general' position?
 
CaptainCourtesy said:
Not to threadjack, but this does relate. In responding to this poll, does your post represent your actual position on dating and sexuality and how you behave/behaved? Or is your response more of a 'in general' position?
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I chose less than a month and my vote pertains to my own behavior and experience. I agree with what some of the others have already pointed out: if you go out with her for 3 dates and you havent slept with her yet (and arent just totally falling for her), go sleep with someone else.

If you really think you have a special connection and it really has the potential to be something, tough it out for awhile and see what happens.
 
americanwoman said:
If she's worth it, wait until she wants it.



If she's not worth it, wait one month. Why waste your time if you ain't feeling her and can't get nothing out of it.
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I agree with this chick.
 
GarzaUK said:
When a guy is going out with a girl, how long is the maximum he should wait until she "puts out"?
For me (I will probably be attacked by every girl on this forum), the maximum I could wait until my mind starts to roam is 3 months. But then again I'm impatient.
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I think three months is being very patient.

Most guys I went out with couldn't wait a couple weeks and they were getting really horny. I, of course didn't put out, but still I knew they were having a hard time, literally.:smile:
 
americanwoman said:
If she's worth it, wait until she wants it.

If she's not worth it, wait one month. Why waste your time if you ain't feeling her and can't get nothing out of it.
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I agree. Mostly I would think a guy will get the signal that it's ok to go forward.

I think if she's not worth it, you should pass on the sex period. It's too risky to take chances with someone that you could get stuck with like an albatross around your neck. Remember "Fatal Attraction"?
 
Hmmm.... I never debated on a subject like this. So I guess I'll try something new.

Me, I'm waiting till I'm married. I don't like rushin' into things.... I believe it's the right thing to do. If the man and woman can show patience, then I think that can make a marriage stronger, although I can't speak from experience.... :(

But 2 places I have patience for: The bedroom (;) ) and the battlefield (patience is one of many keys to victory [yells a blood curdling battle cry]

2 places I don't have patience for: Traffic lights and the DMV :mrgreen: .

Besides, the gal I gots my eye on would wait till she's married too, cuz that's what she told me.
 
Donkey1499 said:
Hmmm.... I never debated on a subject like this. So I guess I'll try something new.

Me, I'm waiting till I'm married. I don't like rushin' into things.... I believe it's the right thing to do. If the man and woman can show patience, then I think that can make a marriage stronger, although I can't speak from experience.... :(

But 2 places I have patience for: The bedroom (;) ) and the battlefield (patience is one of many keys to victory [yells a blood curdling battle cry]

2 places I don't have patience for: Traffic lights and the DMV :mrgreen: .

Besides, the gal I gots my eye on would wait till she's married too, cuz that's what she told me.
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I don't want to knock you or your sweetie, by any means, but I have never thought it was a good idea to wait until after marriage. Sex is an important part of any relationship, and after you have said you will be with the person until death do you part is the wrong time to find out that you really don't enjoy having sex with him or her. I think that is a recipe for adultery and bitterness.

On the other hand, waiting a good length of time before having sex is an excellent idea, because it helps you to recognize if the relationship is strong enough to go the distance. There will come a point, due to age if not due to health reasons or separation by circumstances, when you will not be able to have sex; you should know before then if the relationship will last through the "dry times," so to speak. And when you are in a relationship that has lots of good sex, it is extremely hard to separate the lust from the actual feelings until after the sex has to stop -- when you realize that you really can't stand the other person if he/she has clothes on.

So to answer the question, I say you should wait until you know you love the person. Sappy and romantic, I know, but on some level I regret every non-loving sexual relationship I have had, and I cherish every loving one. Love should come before sex. But sex should come before marriage.
 
CoffeeSaint said:
Love should come before sex. But sex should come before marriage.
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Careful kids, this guy might be smarter than he normally lets on. :cool:

Well Said.
 
Originally Posted by CoffeeSaint
Love should come before sex. But sex should come before marriage

Originally Posted by VoidWar
Careful kids, this guy might be smarter than he normally lets on.

Well Said.
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What he said. :smile:
 
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