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Has your sexuality changed?

Has your sexuality changed?

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In your life has your sexuality changed, or became more fluid?

Personally I would have to say yes. I have been attracted to both sexes, but right now, I would definitely have to say that I am attracted to women more than men.
 

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I have seen many men in my life that I thought were "handsome" but I have never been attracted to any of them sexually. My preference in females has fluctuated over the years. When I was younger I tended to be more attracted to the thinner, taller variety. As I have gotten older, my tastes run more to the more curvy.

Even white boys got to shout "baby's got back" which brings up the race angle. I have indulged in relations with blacks, whites, hispanics, asians and arabs.


Sadly, as I get even older I find that, on many occasions, I'd rather just get a good night's sleep than fool around with the missus.
 

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At the very core, absolutely not. I've been attracted to both men and women since I can recall ever having attractions at all. Age 10 or so... not sure, twas a long ****ing time ago.

I've always had a fondness for the "bad boys" and for voluptuous women. That's never changed.
I've always had a pure physical attraction to women (meaning their personalities matter little to me when it comes to wanting to **** them). That's never changed.
But with men, personality does come into play. What specific personality traits I find appealing HAS changed.

But, I should also make the distinction between wanting to **** someone and wanting to date someone. When it comes to just sex, little has changed for me really. Maybe, fine tuned a bit. But lust is lust. You either feel it or you don't. But some of the personality traits I find attractive, or even acceptable in men have changed over the years a bit.

When it comes to an actual relationship, yes my values have changed drastically and continue to be in a constant state of flux.
 

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I dont rightly know.

I cant really determine what my sexuality would technically be. I have a very strong preference for women but if a guy was good looking enough, I wouldn't be opposed to a slap on the ass or two :)

So I guess that technically makes me bi, but at the same time I have yet to meet a guy I was really interested in beyond "Huh, he's kinda cute"

So I generally just shrug my shoulders at the whole issue and leave it to people with far more time on their hands than I.

Finding out I was polyamorous was a pretty earth shattering revelation and when I go back and look at my life before I came to that conclusion, it was pretty obvious I've been poly as long as I can remember. It was a shock because before that I'd run a pretty monogamous life and tried to sort of force my thinking in that direction with very little success. I feel a lot more free and a lot more comfortable with myself as an individual now that I've sorted that out.

In terms of physical preferences, not much has changed actually. It's very individualistic; what makes one woman look stunningly gorgeous may make another look not so attractive in my eyes. Personality has A LOT to do with it, even if it's just physical attraction. Someone who is physically attractive but with zero personality and few brains tends to downgrade their actual physical attractiveness to me. I do have a somewhat crippling weakness for Russian and Eastern European women, though :D And growing up in LA has made me a definite fan of Latinas.

I tend to look at the person as a whole to determine if they're attractive. That's not to say that if I see a particularly short skirt walk by I dont take every opportunity to covertly admire :)
 

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No, not really. I have only ever been sexually attracted to women, and my preferences in females hasn't really changed much either.
 

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Born straight, currently straight, probably die straight.

I've never had any desire to be with a guy, despite the intense wish for it not to be so. Jallman has it so lucky. I know he's never been in an argument about the toilet seat.

The only thing that has changed is that my once-intense hatred for redheads is now down to mild disgust. That band camp girl from American Pie ain't shabby, I must say. I'd still rather get my testicles trapped under Gallagher's hammer than date Julia Roberts though.

I think it's a woman thing. Seems fad-ish to wake up with a new orientation on a weekly basis. Not to mention I don't know of many women who want to see their man with another man.

And thank God for that.
 

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I think it's a woman thing. Seems fad-ish to wake up with a new orientation on a weekly basis. Not to mention I don't know of many women who want to see their man with another man.
i think i agree with this. i've had several close friends or family members "change" their orientation over time; only one of them is a male.
 

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i think i agree with this. i've had several close friends or family members "change" their orientation over time; only one of them is a male.
I'm a little curious why you put change in quotes, care to share?
 

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Sexuality is a strange topic to peg. What makes us attracted to others. Is it the face? The body? The genitals? The sexual moves we like to do?

I think most people are attracted to the face of a person. There are many anti-gay people who always say "I'm not gay, I don't like anal sex", but how does a gay virgin know if they like anal sex or a straight person know if they like vaginal sex? Frankly if women and men magically switched genitals forever tomorrow, I doubt anyone is going to switch "sides".

Apparently most of the guys who watch Shemale porn consider themselves "straight"

I think this is also a reason why girls tend to be more "bi" than men. Sex isn't going to hurt more for women if they take on the same sex in the bedroom.

I think a lot of people are bi-sexual it's just that there are many different degrees you can be. Most guys might have a man-crush, but never do anything "gay". Girls often look at "pretty women" because they like to.

Me personally I've always liked women, and never found men attractive.
 

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My sexuality hasn't changed, but my understanding and acceptance of it has over time. When I was in my teens I didn't understand my attractions at all. As a young adult, that didn't get much clearer and actually I became scared if my attractions were discovered by friends or family I'd be ostracized or ridiculed, so I hid it and ran from it...until on evening I had sit down with a neighbor. We discussed this very issue and what it really meant to us as individuals. That chat really opened my eyes. I realized being bi wasn't the death sentence I had assumed it was. It didn't mean I was a lesbian, per se, but more somewhere in the middle.
Granted, as time passed my marriage ended, I moved from the East coast back to the mid-west and I learned to accept who I was.
I explored my sexuality and then found someone I wanted to spend the rest of my life with.
She and I have been together for nearly 15yrs now and just because I'm with her does not mean I am in any way denying my bisexuality. I'm not purely lesbian, this has been evidenced repeatedly. But what I have realized is although I am sexually attracted to both men and women, I don't want to ever have a "relationship" with a man. I have never been as close to a man as I have a woman. To me, men are simply sex objects, not partners. No offense to any men here...but the truth be told, I wasn't even all that close to my husband, not like I am my current partner.

Recently my idea has had an opportunity to be tested and my conclusion is the same.
Someone I have had a "history" with has come back into my life after a very long separation. But after spending some time around him, I realized my feelings for him were purely on a physical only level. I want no part of a "relationship" with this guy whatsoever.
My partner and I discussed this and although I still find my friend very physically and sexually attractive, I realized why he and I never "dated" in the past. He's kind of a jerk. LOL
 

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As hot as I think other women are, I have no desire to eat *****. I'm hopelessly addicted to the peen.
 

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Don't get females who make a big issue of the fact that they're 'attracted to other females', it's not like the majority of the females out there aren't.
Seriously it's like us males are the way less attractive sex, that even the female sex is mostly attracted to itself and not to males. How ****ed up is that.
Kinda makes it even harder to understand homosexual males.
 

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I think its because men are less sexualized. To tell you the truth most women aren't all that attractive either.
 

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Seriously it's like us males are the way less attractive sex...Kinda makes it even harder to understand homosexual males.
I don't agree with this at all. Men are definitely way more attractive to me than women, and there is nothing that beats a perfectly shaped penis.

As far as the gay thing, I TOTALLY understand penis love. They're adorable. They are perfectly engineered for their purpose. They have personality. Plus, they feel GREAT.

I cannot understand why anyone would want to be face to face with a furry pink taco. Ugh.
 

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I don't agree with this at all. Men are definitely way more attractive to me than women, and there is nothing that beats a perfectly shaped penis.

As far as the gay thing, I TOTALLY understand penis love. They're adorable. They are perfectly engineered for their purpose. They have personality. Plus, they feel GREAT.

I cannot understand why anyone would want to be face to face with a furry pink taco. Ugh.
That's why you insist on the NON-furry variety :) Much cleaner and much more hygienic.

Personally, I prefer a good set of hips and a sly smile, but every girl is different.
 

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That's why you insist on the NON-furry variety :) Much cleaner and much more hygienic.

Personally, I prefer a good set of hips and a sly smile, but every girl is different.
Fur removal doesn't make ***** any more aesthetically pleasing to me. Thanks, but NO.
 

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Seriously it's like us males are the way less attractive sex, that even the female sex is mostly attracted to itself and not to males. How ****ed up is that.
Kinda makes it even harder to understand homosexual males.
Men can be attractive, too. Firm muscles, strong shoulders, rugged faces. A beautiful man draws the eyes and inspires admiration just as much as a beautiful woman.

Besides, most women just pretend to be attracted to other women to get men.

I cannot understand why anyone would want to be face to face with a furry pink taco. Ugh.
They're really a lot better without the fur. And, honestly, I don't really understand the concept of being attracted to genitals. They feel nice, but they're not beautiful. They're probably the least beautiful parts of anyone's body.
 
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It's less about the physical and more about the reactions you can elicit with it.
Yeah. I hear you talking, and I'm sure it's great for you, but I have zero interest in pink tacos.

I should probably point out here that having a **** between your teeth is ****ing sexy. Now, that makes you want to blow some guy in a random parking lot, right?
 

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Yeah. I hear you talking, and I'm sure it's great for you, but I have zero interest in pink tacos.

I should probably point out here that having a **** between your teeth is ****ing sexy. Now, that makes you want to blow some guy in a random parking lot, right?
Not actually :) I dont know what I'd call myself, maybe bi, but I havent really found a guy I've found attractive
 

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Not actually :) I dont know what I'd call myself, maybe bi, but I havent really found a guy I've found attractive
They're all around you, man. If you've never found one you're attracted to yet, it's probably never going to happen.
 

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Not actually :) I dont know what I'd call myself, maybe bi, but I havent really found a guy I've found attractive
that reminds me of when I joined the army. they always used to ask you the question: "have you ever or do you plan on having sex with a person of the same sex?" I would always reply, usually with a lisp, "No, but I just haven't found the guy who's right for me"

personally, I've seen tons of guys that I thought were very attractive. but for some reason, I've just never had the urge to suck their dicks.
 
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