Agreed, Orion. But I believe a significant number of gays and lesbians are hardwired. Some choose, but they have to be wired just the same.
Thinking of this from your own sexuality perspective. I am straight. I (in my mind) am bi-curious, but have never acted on it and likely never would.
My sister is a lesbian. She didn't admit it or come out until she was in her late-20's. She has a son in his early-30's. I really don't know if she is hardwired or that's just a path she took.
I think people should just stop making weird rules about how they should behave and do what they want, but I acknowledge that my ideas may be too advanced for a society that is still having trouble acknowledging that same-sex attractions are normal.
I don't really care if being gay is a choice or not. It doesn't matter. We should all be free to be whatever we want to be on any given day. A lot of people are like your sister. They're not really able to define themselves sexually and I don't think they should ever be expected to.
Orion, that makes sense right across the board. Especially in America, where a rather large segment of the population uses labels to decide how they think. It's not even actually thinking, it's reacting. I think that's part of why Andrea Gibson (whom I love) uses the term Queer so regularly. It's just one of the labels that people react to in a certain way, but if they are listening to her they have to see that :shrug: she is who she is, and 'queer' is just a part of it. She is brilliant, intelligent, funny, quick-witted, loving, open, honest - and that's just what I learned watching her videos and doing a bit of net research.
So stroke another man's dick because I stroke my own?
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