Your and my personal opinions of porn aside, there is indeed a problem associated with the stuff, especially with the millions of graphic, often violent, pornographic images now available to anyone with a smartphone. As someone said in one of those smart talks, paraphrasing, "We are not only grooming young men to objectify women, porn also grooms their victims."
Gonzo porn, something which is becoming ever more prevalent, is basically a rape scene with the female actor shown to be enjoying it. So, we get women hammered in the mouth, butt, throat, etc by multiple male actors. At first she is screaming, kicking and otherwise resisting, but then she is shown smiling and "enjoying" the bombardment by male genitalia for the camera once the action gets going. It's pure BS, and it completely distorts reality. I would agree with those saying this stuff promotes rape culture.
Then we have this prevalence of "daddy's girl" like porn. Where stepfathers and real fathers are depicted having sex with their daughters as though it was a normal, every day event. In the talk, the lady said she was told by a child molester during an interview that he did not even have to groom his 13-year-old stepdaughter, the culture did it for him. Think about that for a minute.
Yes - there is a problem related to depicting things like rape, pedophilia, and incest.
That's not porn.
When I say 'porn' I'm referring to legal content between consenting adults all of which are over the age of 18.
Though I think you mean that if you're (general you) cruising for pictures it's hard to tell the difference.
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However. I don't agree that the idea of a woman being in a gang bang or deepthroating is something every woman hates. You're honestly believing that no woman ever enjoys rape fantasies to be role played in the bedroom? (Rape fantasies are the #1 sexual fantasy held by women). You don't think women like bondage and rough sex? That these are only interests because 'society groomed them' to 'pretend they like it'? (If this isn't your true belief on sex between consenting adults in the real world then please clarify)
I've no interest in sex with anyone but my husband, but what he and I do together... well you listed out everything he and I engage in as a 'problem' in general. Yet we're only having sex with each other, no cameras, no money. He's not the one who even introduced half of it into our sex life, a lot of it came from me. I don't ever do anything I don't want to do.
So we do things that involve spanking, object play, edge play, breath play, clamps, extreme anal, deep throat.
For me, my interest in these things really came from just the nature of sex itself. He's very well endowed and for a long time sex with him with any gusto was painful, no matter how much care we took to make it gentle. And after a while my body just began to associate any sort of sex with pain as being a pleasurable trigger. Things went more extreme from there - all because of my psychology and chemistry shifted in response to our actual sex. And thankfully so. I'm glad I changed which allowed sex to be more freely enjoyable for both of us because living in that time of sexual pain (as a negative) and restrain was misery.
In the past, when we first married, the idea of deep throating him was offensive (later just impossible when I did try. I'm good at it now, it's a skill.). Sex in certain positions was a turn off because it was painful. Porn was a put off, as well. I was actually working as a nursery attendant at my father's church when we met. Though I was sexually active as a kid and a teen, I withdrew from a lot of it when I became a mother / adult. I think prude was a good definition for me, sex wise, when we met. I've clearly changed a lot and the only influence I've really had was our sex life.
Only later did I do things like start to write sex stories and watch porn (usually by myself).
And my situation is probably where a lot of other women are when they enjoy such things. It came from the nature of how their bodies felt and handled sex itself, not from society.
Trust me - society (nay, strong-voiced feminist women) actually send me messages of: you shouldn't LIKE these things . . . and yet, I do like them. I like them enough to surround myself in it and defend womens' rights to engage in it, watch, and read it.
Society cannot make you like something that you don't like. You can pretend. You can feel pressured to comply. But that's not the same as needing it or wanting it in your own private sex life. Your belief seems to overlook the true nature of sexual urges and the actual source of such needs and interests as if we as people don't really exists and we're just socially engineered puppets.
A LOT of people who are not into it don't feel they're missing anything. Most women DON'T subject themselves to anything rough or harsh. To use a famous quote: "We're a rare breed."
