On another thread MSgt made the same essential point that Gipper did here: that as a rule flamboyancy of any type doesn't enlist, and flamboyancy is not tolerated in the military.
Most gays are not the stereotypical pride marcher, so serving openly in the military will be less of a problem.
Gays who are pride marchers don't enlist, the career just doesn't appeal to that type of personality, so gays serving openly in the military will be even less of a problem.
Reading what someone actually types into a post instead of what you want the post to say will serve you well.
As I understand the issue the main problem is the attitude your typical fire-team has about gays, and nothing to do with any gay person. Constantly asserting gay rights does absolutely nothing to educate and improve the opinions hetero fire teams hold. In fact I would say it only makes those attitudes worse.
"I do not look down on niggers, kikes, wops and greasers. Here you are all equally worthless..."
....or the "here there is no brown, black, red, yellow or white. Here there is only green. Some of you may be light green, some of you may be dark green, but you are all green" speach.
I suspect the military will find a way to unify everyone by funneling sexuality through the M16...a kind of "here there are no fagots, breeders, fudge packers, egg packers, gays, or chair sniffers. Here there are only riflemen...."