She blew it. She had a wide-open door to discuss race relations - and she slammed it shut.
Wrong. She was discussing race relations. That was the subject of the call. She just wasn't discussing it in the prescribed manner which is usually pandering to special interest and political correctness.
Actually, BDBoop is correct. Dr. Laura blew a perfect opportunity to help advise this African-American caller in a way that she could have improved her relationship w/her white husband while also improving race relations with "his" white male friends. You see, the advise Dr. Laura gave wasn't about how to improve race relations in particular when yours is a "mixed-marriage" such as mine is (I'm African-American, my wife is white). Dr. Laura attacked the woman's sensativity level on the issue of race when a non-Black male who she perceived as being bigotted "in her home" where she didn't really know the man to the extent that her husband's friend was "their friend", not just her husband's. So, in the broader context, Dr. Laura missed an opportunity to help improve or even save a marriage while also missing an oppportunity to have an open, honest dialog on her popular, nationally syndicated radio show.
As to the word "nigga" or in it's more proper form, "nigger" IT IS A CRUEL, VIAL, DISPICABLE WORD GENERALLY USED TO DENOTE HATRED AND BIGOTRY TOWARDS AFRICAN-AMERICANS. However, what alot of white people don't seem to understand is how African-Americans can use the word and get away with it while they cannot. Well, here's why white folks can't but blacks can:
WE DON'T GIVE THAT WORD POWER to degrade, disgrace, put down, humiliate or condemn one towards the other. Generally speaking, when the word is used amongst ourselves, we use it as a term of endearment. As such, WE remove the sting of negativity that is commonly associated with the word, "nigger". It is commonly used in humorous content among many Black comedians, but one must understand the context of that humor to understand how it isn't found to be offensive to most African-Americans.
You see, when the word, "nigga" is used in schetch comedy, WE understand that it is being used to discuss certain aspects of both the African-American community, as well as, as a "legitimate opening" to discuss social/stereo-typical issues that affect the African-American community. To that extent, the word, "nigga", loses it's sting. It does NOT have power. In recent times, we've even accepted white comedians using the word because it is understood that they are coming from the exact same position of understanding. Those white comedians who have used the word have greatly demonstrated that they not only understand the social/stereo-typical issues that affect US, but very likely have lived among US and have continuously enteracted with us to such a degree that WE understand that they pose no threat to US. But let a white person who we don't know, who comes across in a threatening manner even if used as a racial joke, now you've placed meaningful hurt back into that word.
So, the question is this: "Should the word, 'nigger' or any derivative thereof be removed from the American lexicon?"
As crazy as it may seem, my vote is no and here's why...
It's part of who/what America is. But we should allow it to simply fade away much like the word, "cracka" once used prominently to discribed a bigoted white man has pretty much faded away because it's no longer hip or cool to say. Eventually, the "N-word" will go away but only after it, like not only is no longer hip or cool, but also once the sting of degredation is finally gone away.
Back to Dr. Laura, had she stopped long enough to listen to what the caller was saying and addressed her problem instead of attempting to inject her own moral values upon her, she could have avoid this contraversy entirely. I was alittle uneasy with what I heard even after hearing the full dialog, but still felt that Dr. Laura made some good points. I think she crossed the line, however, when she told the woman she shouldn't have married outside her race because at that point she wasn't advising or using examples of how the N-word has been used under various social commentary platforms, i.e., black entertainment comedy, etc. Now, she's injected her own biasness into the equation. That was wrong of her.