I see it all the time. Female leaves man; man falls apart, resorts to heavy drinking, loses job, loses home, gets arrested or worse--shoots to kill the partner who left him and takes own life. It almost never fails. The only remedy for the inevitable Male Crash-Burn is the good fortune of finding a new woman with the strength to keep him on the straight and narrow.
Nope. I'm sure there are some losers in life with no sense of morality or aspiration beyond "marriage and a job", and that they set themselves up for angst due to their own unhealthy dependency, but what your describing is not a "normal, healthy person" - just the typical "incel mindset" - which seems to be fraught both with loathing and unhealthy attachment.
I've had about 15 partners, most were fairly short-term affairs - never married or had any children (and didn't want to). The sex was sometimes good (albeit sinful) but it didn't satisfy me as a person. And rushing into a relationship or marriage out of purely unhealthy attachment and dependency would be even worse.
I'm also just not aware of any men (or women) who are somewhat successful in any way that matters who think like this (whether we look at successful entrepreneurs, scientists, thinkers, philosophers, philanthropists, or others).
Now, is this CB condition a 100%? Well, I am sure there are exceptions to prove the rule. However, for the most part, show me a dude whose life fell apart, and I'll say, "He just got divorced, didn't he?"
Thoughts?
Yeah, my thought is that this is just the same vein of "incel logic" which has been more than done to death, not just by the incels and male virgins here, but countless other "griefing" sites.
All these years, I thought the divorce was my idea. But, when you learn she married up--way up
Apparently not...
Honestly, in a lot of cases, the reality may simply be that the man isn't desirable enough in some quality or another which she can easily get from another - so it would be just as much in her own "self-interest" to look around elsewhere as it would for a guy to get a divorce because he wants to date younger women.
So if a man is so weak and dependent that he couldn't function if some woman left him, that doesn't say much about his prospects to begin with (certainly not as far as survival of the fittest is concerned).
Usually this will be to push it in the direction the court appointed psychologist recommends for the children. Going up against that is going up against a tidal wave, and most of those are women tending to be more sympathetic to women claiming "psychological abuse" and that he is an abusive "control freak." That is almost standard pleading language in divorces involving children - claiming he is verbally and emotionally abusive.
More to the point about incel logic here - I'm sure courts may tend to be "biased" towards women in regards to child custody, but this isn't due to "feminism" or whatever incel conspiracy you seem to be hocking.
If anything, it's actually more due to older, "pre-feminist" thinking, such as tending to presume by default that women are more naturally qualified to care for children due to their biology and such.
I keep seeing these articles about women struggling to find good men. I can't help but think that men are rising up and figuring out marriage is bad deal for them.
Yeah, I guess if a man (or woman) signs a legally-binding contract without even bothering to read the fine print, that it could end up being a "bad deal".
So my question remains, if the agreement is a "bad deal", why did they sign it to begin with - and how do they get off on keeping the same incel-mindset of "blaming women" for the marriage contract or divorce? It's not like she held a gun to his head and forced him to sign anything.
