I see it all the time. Female leaves man; man falls apart, resorts to heavy drinking, loses job, loses home, gets arrested or worse--shoots to kill the partner who left him and takes own life. It almost never fails. The only remedy for the inevitable Male Crash-Burn is the good fortune of finding a new woman with the strength to keep him on the straight and narrow.
Now, is this CB condition a 100%? Well, I am sure there are exceptions to prove the rule. However, for the most part, show me a dude whose life fell apart, and I'll say, "He just got divorced, didn't he?"
Thoughts?
Sometimes it's the chicken, sometimes it's the egg.
I married a beautiful and intelligent lady who worked as a screenwriter, business manager and associate producer, and she was previously married to a powerful Hollywood producer whose career arc dwarfs my own by a country mile, and yet she shared her connections with me for my benefit.
Being that I was so infatuated with her I chose to downplay a couple of her serious personality flaws, like the fact that she was a (functional) alcoholic and a coke addict.
And sure enough, in due time, not only did I make disastrous personal choices that led to me becoming a coke fiend, but her own functionally went down the tubes as time marched on.
We both pitched our lives down that rabbit hole.
I made the decision to seek help, which didn't sit well with her, and then the 1994 Northridge Earthquake wiped out my business.
And a couple of months later I
(newly sober) returned home from work to find the house empty of any sign of her.
In MY case, first my life fell apart, and THEN my wife left me.
Can that be called kicking a man when he's down?
I suppose it could but I am not purely the victim here.
Some of the factors leading to her walking out were things I am responsible for.
So I can't pretend to be the victim and blame all of it on her, it would be dishonest.
My own tragedy resolved itself because I put in the work to fix my life, so my "tragedy" ended and I managed to survive and return to normalcy, or something like it.
Her tragedy is that she never quite managed to get away from the drugs, and she died under some pretty horrific circumstances about five years ago from an overdose.