Having three children myself I have always been amazed the difference of people without kids. Let me preface that there isn't nothing wrong in choosing not to have kids. We have an ample number of kids already.
I just find that those without kids become very self centered and always need to get away for a weekend for stress relief. And I think What Stress?
In defense of childless couples we with kids are the ones with photos and lengthy discussion on little Billy's sports or muscial talent.
But I truly think if the only butt you ever wiped is your own then you have this strong tendency to be so self-centered and I hate to say it but "wimpy".
Just my thought.
Just because a person isn't a parent doesn't mean they have nothing to do with children.
For instance, you're forgetting uncles and aunts who are child-free who look after their nephews and nieces. Just because they didn't give birth to those kids doesn't mean they're not family.
Also, a lot of teachers are child-free but spend just as much time with children than their parents do. That doesn't mean that teachers without children aren't "givers" or are selfish.
And just because someone doesn't have kids, or doesn't have nieces or nephews, or isn't a teacher doesn't mean you won't make a good mentor to someone. There's just some things that a kid can't relate to their parents about. I don't see anything wrong with a kid, especially
as they age into their teenage years, have an "honorary uncle" as TVTropes puts it (as well as "honorary aunt") looking out for them.
Besides, I'm sure that those parents who have bred children appreciate the effort that those aunts and uncles, those teachers, and those honorary uncles and aunts put into the raising of those parents' children.
I'm not gonna say "it takes a village," but on the other hand parents aren't the only ones allowed to help nurture a child.
And children aren't the only ones that requires nurturing. Take, for example, the elderly and the mentally ill and mentally disabled and the physically disabled. Most people don't have the education or training required to take care of them, which is why we have social workers to work with them. And dealing with those groups can be just as stressful as dealing with children.
And just because a person has
bred doesn't mean they are a "giver" or know how to nurture a child either. There's a big difference between being a father and a daddy, and there's a big difference between being a mother and a mommy.
And I should iterate that I feel that I'm under no obligation to have children in order to prove to others that I'm a giver. That's a recipe for disaster with someone's life, and shouldn't be done by anybody.
Don't mean to go on a rant, but I just wanted to put some other things in perspective. There's lots of ways to be a "giver" than being a parent, and there's more groups that need nurturing and love besides children.