Re: Company’s ban against gay weddings is akin to ‘white applicants only’ sign, judge
Goodness, you must be young or something. My brother is gay and he's got several heartbreaking stories about hospitals and gay partners.
Yeah I've read them too. I am 35. Didn't meet my partner until I was 27. Prior to Oberfell my partner and I tried to get a joint adoption of his little brother. His parents disowned him when he was 18 for being gay. And they later disowned his youngest brother at 12 years old for being gay. They are a Mormon family. So I'm privy to the nasty things people do to gay people. Thank you for trivializing it.
The problem is before SSM was legalized,
Well The Oberfell decision happened so marriage is fully recognized.
gay partners had no legal status unless they'd signed medical POAs or something equivalent. They had the same legal status as a roommate or drinking buddy.
Duh. [QUOTEPAnd even they had signed the necessary papers, if challenged by "real" family, like bitter parents, hospitals were reluctant to give the gay partner access and the partner of 25 years sure as hell often could not make any decisions, or had to threaten lawsuits, etc. to make it happen.[/QUOTE]In the past. Now after the Oberfell decision that is over.
Sadly, too, many partners hadn't signed the papers because like the rest of us they just didn't anticipate the need and didn't get around to it. No big deal for married straight couples, but for gay couples unable to marry, but who put off the medical POA until too late, it was sometimes tragic.
I wasn't arguing that there never was discrimination. Why do people with the apologetic argument always have to dwell in the past?
[QUOTEPSo it wasn't that laws forbade visits, it's just that there was often no legal standing on which to demand access. Most of my brother's stories involved a dying partner and parents who had never accepted the son being gay, hated his gay partner, and took it out on that person out of spite. Admittedly, it put hospital administrators in a tough position, but that's the problem. If my wife is ill, the presumption is I am the healthcare decision maker, period. That presumption did not exist with gay couples, even people who'd spent decades together.[/QUOTE]It does now.
Here's an article that is somewhat similar to stories my brother and his friends have told me over the years.
No thanks I've read enough of those. That's why the supreme court ruled the way it did.
Thankfully, things are completely different in 2017 than in 1997.
I was but a 15 year old boy stuck in compete denial in 1997.
I came out in 2007.