Wow. Okay, so you're married. Hmmmm, I see what you're saying. I assumed you were single and lusting after women. I guess we all fight our desires to some extent. I just don't like it when you're made to feel badly for having human emotions. Sheesh (this is against religion--not you).
If I explored myself, I felt badly. In fact, I avoided it when I was a kid because I was told it was a very bad sin. Come on. We were born with sexual organs, and I think people should be able to explore them.
Even though I don't believe in God, I still like to say this: If God didn't want us to be sexually active, he wouldn't have made sex feel so good.
I think it's normal to still look at others when you're married. In fact, if my husband didn't, I would think something was wrong. He's classy enough not to look when he's with me (unless, of course, I point the woman out to him).