Joe51
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I'm really tempted to say that if I didn't need the money I wouldn't have pursued it, especially if it left her near destitute. But having never been in the situation I don't know
Don't know anything about divorce law but custodial parents do pretty routinely go to court to get child support. I suppose you could go back and ask for less. Maybe just give it back to her on the side or create a rainy day fund if she hits on hard times
I probably wouldn't have if I had known what it was all about. I just wanted her to help out with doctors bills, dentist, optometrist, etc. I tried to work it out with her before going to the courts, but she told me she would only help through the courts. I gave her several chances to change her mind. It was her choice. Once the judge gets involved, it's his way. He's got a chart to go by, and a set of statutes to follow, and that's it. I can't believe it. The look on her face was priceless. Maybe it's wrong to take pleasure in that, but she really put the kids and I through quite a bit of turmoil. It was nice to have a win for once.
I see both sides of this coin.
On one hand, she had kids, why should she expect someone else to bear all the financial responsibility for them. She's a grown woman, knows how to walk and ride a bike. What makes it okay to play mom, but never put your money into it.
On the other hand it's hard to make rent and bills when a third of your salary is gone before you even see it.
It's a bad situation all the way around, and 2 kids are caught in the middle wondering what the hell happened to their nice little life.
Anyway, I like your signature. I've been saying that prayer for a while.