Felicity said:
Is it the "woman's fault" or the lack of respect for the woman and her contributions to society?
What is unclear about this:
"In her submission lies her error and her guilt. By her failure to withhold the multitudes of children who have made inevitable the most flagrant of our social evils, she incurred a debt to society. Regardless of her own wrongs, regardless of her lack of opportunity and regardless of all other considerations, she must pay that debt."
What is unclear about this:
While unknowingly laying the foundations of tyrannies and providing the human tinder for racial conflagrations, woman was also unknowingly creating slums, filling asylums with insane, and institutions with other defectives. She was replenishing the ranks of the prostitutes, furnishing grist for the criminal courts and inmates for prisons. Had she planned deliberately to achieve this tragic total of human waste and misery, she could hardly have done it more effectively.
Unknowingly. Not by intention. Therefore, not guilty, not evil, not bad; but nonetheless, responsible. I don't think this argument differs appreciably from your own: Sanger is saying that women have a responsibility to confront the realities of their reproduction, the same as you have said; you just have VERY different views of what that reproductiuon means, and what it symbolizes. While her stance may be construed as insulting to motherhood, it certainly is not misogynistic. She has said much about women's power in these quotes. What part of women's contributions to society are you saying she's disrespecting?
Felicity said:
Sanger was also an elitist (to the max!)--the only "good" mother was one with money regardless of the spiritual good of the children she produced--and if by chance the kid goes wrong--it's the woman's fault. In the 1st paragraph--she says such woman are "found in the ranks of labor" as well and then in the 2nd paragraph contradicts herself.
I have 5 children. I am not "rich." I do not have a housemaid or governess. I am not "a rarity"--I know several women like myself. We are not "ignorant" nor are we "enslaved"--we are noble and honored by embracing the POWER that comes with motherhood. Shitty mothers exist--and it's not the number of children a woman has that makes her shitty or makes her a good mother.
This is where the comparison between Sanger's subject and today's women probably falls apart; today, keeping a home is simply not as labor intensive as it once was, and so women with "large" families by Sanger's definition do have the ability to do many other things. But the important point is that women with children simply have less time and energy to devote to other pursuits than women with no children; women with more children have less time than women with few children. When a woman makes a choice to dedicate her time to her children, all well and good; but if she does not make that choice, she should not be forced into a situation where she is limited to being a mother, whether she is a good mother or a poor mother.
I honor your motherhood, but I do not honor motherhood universally, at the cost of any other life choice a woman may make. Women can do anything; the fact that they can become mothers does not mean that they always should. Motherhood is powerful, but it is not the only power, nor the only good power, nor the only proper power for a woman; that is Sanger's point.
WOMAN AND THE NEW RACE
original copyright: 1920
In sharp contrast with these women who ignorantly bring forth large families and who thereby enslave themselves, we find a few women who have one, two or three children or no children at all. These women, with the exception of the childless ones, live full-rounded lives. They are found not only in the ranks of the rich and the well-to-do, but in the ranks of labor as well. They have but one point of basic difference from their enslaved sisters; they are not burdened with the rearing of large families.
Okay; read it again. She is speaking of women who have 0-3 children, which she apparently sees as the ideal; she says they are found "not only in the ranks of the rich and well-to-do, but in the ranks of labor as well." She is saying that these women, the ones she thinks are doing the right thing, can be found anywhere. How is that elitist?
The probability of a child handicapped by a weak constitution, an overcrowded home, inadequate food and care, and possibly a deficient mental equipment, winding up in prison or an almshouse, is too evident for comment. Every jail, hospital for the insane, reformatory and institution for the feebleminded cries out against the evils of too prolific breeding among wage-workers.
This is a fact, not elitism. The fact is that unwanted children in these situations come from lower class homes. The unwanted children of the rich are not in jail, nor in insane asylums (not the kind that Sanger is talking about), nor reformatories; they are in boarding schools. There are far more abortions, adoptions, and unwanted/neglected/abused children among the working class, than among the rich. Do you disagree with that? Or do you disagree with her pointing it out?
I took out the quote about prostitution, because it is no longer accurate, IMO. Women do not turn to prostitution because they are starving. I see what you mean about her blaming the mother for the child's turning to prostitution, but that is one small piece of a great paean to the power of women; if you attribute power to women through their role as mothers, then you have to accept the negative results of that powerful role -- it you want the credit, take the blame.
Felicity said:
What a self-aggrandizing, elitist, hag.:shock:
As for this, I totally fail to see it. What I see is this:
Women who have a knowledge of contraceptives are not compelled to make the choice between a maternal experience and a marred love life; they are not forced to balance motherhood against social and spiritual activities. Motherhood is for them to choose, as it should be for every woman to choose. Choosing to become mothers, they do not thereby shut themselves away from thorough companionship with their husbands, from friends, from culture, from all those manifold experiences which are necessary to the completeness and the joy of life.
Fit mothers of the race are these, the courted comrades of the men they choose, rather than the "slaves of slaves." For theirs is the magic power; the power of limiting their families to such numbers as will permit them to live full-rounded lives. Such lives are the expression of the feminine spirit which is woman and all of her; not merely art, nor professional skill, nor intellect; but all that woman is, or may achieve.
I see the power of women. I see the power of choice, and the alternative to choice, which is slavery. I see an argument I wish I had come up with myself, and I thank you for bringing this to my attention.