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Are/were you an abuse victim?

Are/were you an abuse victim?

  • mental, child

    Votes: 2 18.2%
  • physical, child

    Votes: 1 9.1%
  • sexual, child

    Votes: 1 9.1%
  • mental, adult

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • physical, adult

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • sexual, adult

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • combination of the above

    Votes: 3 27.3%
  • (added category) neglect, child

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • (added category) neglect, adult

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • I was one of the lucky ones

    Votes: 4 36.4%

  • Total voters
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Are/were you an abuse victim?
 

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No.

I did not allow the government to bully me into making a health decision they THEY wanted me to make based on the importance they deem requires my participation.
 

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There's still time to delete/edit #2, but ...
 

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No thanks. It stands as fact. There are many forms of abuse.

Take for instance elderly abuse. Joe’s wife should be arrested for elderly abuse. No loving woman/wife would treat her husband like she does.

I feel sorry for Joe.
 

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You should have made this so people can choose multiple answers IMO.

I was verbally abused BIG TIME and CONSTANTLY as a child. Shrieking lunatic for a mother, when she was around at all because she had to work 12 hours a day (and more) after my father left.
Did live with the father for awhile (he didn't completely disappear) and that really wasnt much improvement, he was taking me to the bars getting me hammered at age 15 and 16 and I did have a serious alcohol problem for about 20 years in my younger days. Once threatened to kill me as a teenager because he found pot in my room. WTF is more normal than a teenager with pot? I have no idea.

I was physically abused a little bit, there were few really harsh beatings but I did go to school once with a big welt across my face from being hit with a belt. I told some lie as to where I got it, if I told the truth the authorities would have removed me from the home I'm sure.
Back in those days beatings were more accepted.

The constant verbal abuse was very damaging, destroys self esteem, makes you withdraw and introvert, I was told as a child that I would wind up in jail (shocker, prophesy fulfilled), told I was defective. Its just so utterly ****ing wrong to say such things to your freaking child, but thats how it was.

To this day I am very close only to canines. This is not a bad arrangement for me. They are so much better than humans anyway. In all ways.

I have a lot of tattoos that I feel, now in hindsight, I mutilated myself due to low self esteem and mental issues. I thought they make me look "tough", and in the day I was pretty tough, and still am really.

I feel I have a lot to offer as a mentor or counselor to younger people who are disturbed and have issues, and I may get involved in this, been thinking about it.

Today: I am a college Honors grad, dual degrees including science, somewhat financially secure although I still live just on the "fringes" of society and am extremely mistrustful of people and do not enjoy their company in 95% of cases. I can be in solitary confinement and LIKE it. Give me a few books and you won't see me again for a week.

Good question. Ask if you want more.
In closing: I consider myself, still, to be very lucky. So many kids have it even worse than I did. My father is dead, but we were on decent terms later in life although never close, my mother is alive and I see her monthly or so and we have developed a wary relationship, but will never be "close" close, she is elderly and probably won't be around a lot longer.
 

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You should have made this so people can choose multiple answers IMO.

I was verbally abused BIG TIME and CONSTANTLY as a child. Shrieking lunatic for a mother, when she was around at all because she had to work 12 hours a day (and more) after my father left.
Did live with the father for awhile (he didn't completely disappear) and that really wasnt much improvement, he was taking me to the bars getting me hammered at age 15 and 16 and I did have a serious alcohol problem for about 20 years in my younger days. Once threatened to kill me as a teenager because he found pot in my room. WTF is more normal than a teenager with pot? I have no idea.

I was physically abused a little bit, there were few really harsh beatings but I did go to school once with a big welt across my face from being hit with a belt. I told some lie as to where I got it, if I told the truth the authorities would have removed me from the home I'm sure.
Back in those days beatings were more accepted.

The constant verbal abuse was very damaging, destroys self esteem, makes you withdraw and introvert, I was told as a child that I would wind up in jail (shocker, prophesy fulfilled), told I was defective. Its just so utterly ****ing wrong to say such things to your freaking child, but thats how it was.

To this day I am very close only to canines. This is not a bad arrangement for me. They are so much better than humans anyway. In all ways.

I have a lot of tattoos that I feel, now in hindsight, I mutilated myself due to low self esteem and mental issues. I thought they make me look "tough", and in the day I was pretty tough, and still am really.

I feel I have a lot to offer as a mentor or counselor to younger people who are disturbed and have issues, and I may get involved in this, been thinking about it.

Today: I am a college Honors grad, dual degrees including science, somewhat financially secure although I still live just on the "fringes" of society and am extremely mistrustful of people and do not enjoy their company in 95% of cases. I can be in solitary confinement and LIKE it. Give me a few books and you won't see me again for a week.

Good question. Ask if you want more.
In closing: I consider myself, still, to be very lucky. So many kids have it even worse than I did. My father is dead, but we were on decent terms later in life although never close, my mother is alive and I see her monthly or so and we have developed a wary relationship, but will never be "close" close, she is elderly and probably won't be around a lot longer.
Reading your touching comments, I better appreciate that saying that goes something like this: If you really knew the background of a person, you would neither "dislike" or "worship" that person.

So, I guess that if we knew the unknown aspects of that Kremlin monster's life, we might not "dislike" him so much. Who knows what kind of childhood he endured. Or how he rose in the ranks of Soviet intelligence. Or how he gets along with his mistress and their children.

Human beings are truly pathetic, and -- yes -- that definitely includes me. (P.S. The Donald acts that way because of his childhood, no doubt.)
 

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Reading your touching comments, I better appreciate that saying that goes something like this: If you really knew the background of a person, you would neither "dislike" or "worship" that person.

So, I guess that if we knew the unknown aspects of that Kremlin monster's life, we might not "dislike" him so much. Who knows what kind of childhood he endured. Or how he rose in the ranks of Soviet intelligence. Or how he gets along with his mistress and their children.

Human beings are truly pathetic, and -- yes -- that definitely includes me. (P.S. The Donald acts that way because of his childhood, no doubt.)

This sounds a lot like "Hmmm, now I understand why you're such an asshole" bwahahaha, but thanks.
Going back to therapy in 2 weeks thanks to my FREE Socialist BidenCare™ plan! Hope they're ready for me! ;):LOL:
 

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You should have allowed people to cast multiple votes, because I qualify for 2 of them equally.

I thought about that, but then I thought it would just make the poll harder to design, so I made a 'combination' poll option. And people are free to post their combinations.
 

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You should have made this so people can choose multiple answers IMO.

I was verbally abused BIG TIME and CONSTANTLY as a child. Shrieking lunatic for a mother, when she was around at all because she had to work 12 hours a day (and more) after my father left.
Did live with the father for awhile (he didn't completely disappear) and that really wasnt much improvement, he was taking me to the bars getting me hammered at age 15 and 16 and I did have a serious alcohol problem for about 20 years in my younger days. Once threatened to kill me as a teenager because he found pot in my room. WTF is more normal than a teenager with pot? I have no idea.

I was physically abused a little bit, there were few really harsh beatings but I did go to school once with a big welt across my face from being hit with a belt. I told some lie as to where I got it, if I told the truth the authorities would have removed me from the home I'm sure.
Back in those days beatings were more accepted.

The constant verbal abuse was very damaging, destroys self esteem, makes you withdraw and introvert, I was told as a child that I would wind up in jail (shocker, prophesy fulfilled), told I was defective. Its just so utterly ****ing wrong to say such things to your freaking child, but thats how it was.



I have a lot of tattoos that I feel, now in hindsight, I mutilated myself due to low self esteem and mental issues. I thought they make me look "tough", and in the day I was pretty tough, and still am really.

I feel I have a lot to offer as a mentor or counselor to younger people who are disturbed and have issues,

I have no tattoos but other than that , the same here. "Shrinking lunatic of a mom" , wow, someone else. If my mom could think of an insult it was screamed at me with hate and anger 24/7 when she was around.
To this day, 50 years later, if a women raises her hand quickly I brace for a blow. Its uncanny. So totally conditioned that it never wears off.
I understand about you getting tattoos as self mutilation. I totally understand it. I won't share more on this however.

I nearly flunked out of every school I ever attended yet test a genius and graduated early. (Before I was destroyed completely, I was ahead a grade) point is, my academic accomplishments werevended faster than they started by the abuse.

Be careful. As an adult I ran into a sociopath. A real one, not the bullshit "my boyfriend is a sociopath" crap every women claims. Just as damaging. In fact, so much so... again, ill stop here.
Oh, I got stories. Sad but true.
And still I was able to outwit lawyers, educate doctors, take issue with some of the acknowledged greatest minds of our time and be proved right in the end.
I guess this is my equivalent to you having graduated with honors.
Peace brother, I lived what you wrote too. You are not alone.
 

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I was raised by decent but emotionally cold people, without writing a memoir I was a little rebellious as a kid, I was arrested at 12 for stealing a car ('54 Chevy Convertible) which I drove into a tree, while turning at too high a speed. I was put on probation. Not long after I was skipping school for days & was summoned to Juvie court. Where I was judged a Habitual School Offender & sent to the Hamden County Training School for Boys. There I was subjected to mental & physical abuse, for example taking to long at my chores (feeding the horses & sheep, I was beaten with a rope halter, another time for I don't recall what, with a pitchfork handle. Least I forget, we were also rented out to surrounding farms to pick tobacco, get in hay etc. There were other kids who were more of a target, & basically got some punishment almost daily. One Kid being taken straight to a mental hospital. So after like 9 months, minus my two front teeth (Knocked out in a staff provoked bare knuckle fight with another inmate) & being run over by a tractor (an accident, but still traumatic) I was released in time for Christmas. I did my 1st jailhouse tatts during this brief period of freedom. Within 3 months I was back in Juvie for car theft, where I was sent to the State reform school, Lyman School for Boys, which wasn't as prone to physical violence, except for the Newby cottage, where the most minor infractions were punished by Dollars, which were whacks on the palm of the hand with a leather soled sandal but still emotional, I repeated the pattern by returning again & escaping the second time for a few weeks, before I was sent to the Shirley Industrial School for Boys. I continued this pattern until I was 18 & in court for burgling a bar & three others I copped to. The judge gave me five years in state prison four times, to be served concurrently & then He said suspended with 5 yrs. Probation. It was then I gave up a life of crime, as I just wasn't any good at it.
Full disclosure, I didn't give up crime altogether, I just stopped stealing & went into the pot business in various capacities. Smuggling, wholesale & finally retail. I got out years before it became legal here.
 
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