Nope, I fully understand why indigenous people would be resentful towards white folk and tired of being told what to do by them. I was asking those questions to see how that might apply to the views you were expressing.
They told my friend that by not serving him they were saving him from a likely beating by the Maori people in the bar, so I suppose they might have seen that as " doing him a favour". He,like I, just saw it as racism which it obviously is. So, glad we can agree that racists exist on both sides/all sides and that each group is something of a mixed bag.
You see, I don't see myself as a "problem " wrt the correct way to go about making the lives of the indigenous populations very much better. I think an apology is the start. I think that financial assistance should be given to the indigenous peoples themselves so that they can decide how best to go about addressing problematic issues within their status quo. That seems to be what you are wanting to happen, maybe with the exception of an apology that you appear to think is meaningless, ( we can agree to disagree ) but at the same time still feel the need to constantly refer to my , alleged, racism.
I haven't turned the thread away from how poorly indigenous people have been and are still being treated. Right from the start I have been clear on this and have constantly stated a wish to see things change for the better. Throughout you have accused me of being a racist without any logical argument to back it up, with just the same old tired use of the fact that I am white to serve as a supposed justification for you rubbishing of all that I say. The man who wants to train the dog and not the kids. The man who thinks he knows what it's like to be the pregnant woman etc etc.
To think the above you would have had to disregard all that I have said because none of it representative of how I think. I actually think it is your own attitude that is problematic. Inferring that even the people who agree with you on how things have been and how making the situation better should be done are still racist smacks of racism itself