About women and what i call "the talk"

[mikhail]

Im just wondering if everyone else is familiar with this or just something women decide to do to me.

Ive noticed with alot of women that after a while a week or sometimes an hour after meeting them, they give me what i call "the talk", which is basically they go all serious and start telling me about something really terrible thats happened to them(though often not that terrible),and how it made their life hard boo hoo.

I usually dont know how to act in these situations im just thinking whoa we where talking about music how are we now on to your dads death.

I swear this happens all the time to me and it puts me off a women straight away.About 2 months ago i was sat talking to a girl in a bar we must have been talking half an hour at the most when the puff daddy i'll be missing you video came on which led her to say out the blue "my dad died in a motobike crash,and out it came her feelings how she found out funeral etc while i sit there going "uhuh yea aww mmm"in my best fake sympathy voice.


So what i would like to know if your a guy does this happen to you too and got any examples?

If your a women do you ever do this and do guys do this too?

 

[Willow]

It's probably more that you have a sympathetic personality and they feel safe telling you their tale. I've noticed over the last twenty years, everyone seems to talk more about their personal life in general. I had a friend of my husband tell me all about his divorce and all sort so of really personal things last week at dinner. It was very odd. Some of the younger people I work with will tell you everything that happens in their life and they think everything is important but I think that's always been pretty much par for the course for younger people to do. I personally almost never tell anyone but my closest friends and my husband anything too personal.

 

[Felicity]

Im just wondering if everyone else is familiar with this or just something women decide to do to me.

Ive noticed with alot of women that after a while a week or sometimes an hour after meeting them, they give me what i call "the talk", which is basically they go all serious and start telling me about something really terrible thats happened to them(though often not that terrible),and how it made their life hard boo hoo.

I usually dont know how to act in these situations im just thinking whoa we where talking about music how are we now on to your dads death.

I swear this happens all the time to me and it puts me off a women straight away.About 2 months ago i was sat talking to a girl in a bar we must have been talking half an hour at the most when the puff daddy i'll be missing you video came on which led her to say out the blue "my dad died in a motobike crash,and out it came her feelings how she found out funeral etc while i sit there going "uhuh yea aww mmm"in my best fake sympathy voice.


So what i would like to know if your a guy does this happen to you too and got any examples?

If your a women do you ever do this and do guys do this too?

Are you guys drinking alcoholic beverages when this happens? You said in the recent occasion you were at a bar....

 

[hypgnostic]

Im just wondering if everyone else is familiar with this or just something women decide to do to me.

Ive noticed with alot of women that after a while a week or sometimes an hour after meeting them, they give me what i call "the talk", which is basically they go all serious and start telling me about something really terrible thats happened to them(though often not that terrible),and how it made their life hard boo hoo.

I usually dont know how to act in these situations im just thinking whoa we where talking about music how are we now on to your dads death.

I swear this happens all the time to me and it puts me off a women straight away.About 2 months ago i was sat talking to a girl in a bar we must have been talking half an hour at the most when the puff daddy i'll be missing you video came on which led her to say out the blue "my dad died in a motobike crash,and out it came her feelings how she found out funeral etc while i sit there going "uhuh yea aww mmm"in my best fake sympathy voice.


So what i would like to know if your a guy does this happen to you too and got any examples?

If your a women do you ever do this and do guys do this too?

It sounds like the women you meet are trying to test your ability to empathize or see how you handle emotional discussions, (or lack thereof). I'm puzzled why you would fake genuine interest instead of being honest and telling them that you really could care less.

I havnen't noticed women discussing these types of things you describe in 'the talk', and I haven't really noticed guys doing it either. Can you give an example?

 

[taxedout]

Next time, guzzle a beer and belch with all you've got.
that'll fix it for you.

 

[rivrrat]

IMO, it had more to do with her drinking and possibly just feeling down about her memories in general than anything else. Obviously not all women do this, but quite obviously some do. Some people are just drama queens/kings and want sympathy from everyone, all the time. Some people try to use the "bad things" that happen to them in a manipulative manner to obtain what they want. Maybe she was (poorly) trying to play the "damsel in distress", who knows.

Or, maybe she was just feeling down that night, went out to get a few drinks and ended up spilling her guts to a complete stranger.

 

[hypgnostic]

IMO, it had more to do with her drinking and possibly just feeling down about her memories in general than anything else. Obviously not all women do this, but quite obviously some do. Some people are just drama queens/kings and want sympathy from everyone, all the time. Some people try to use the "bad things" that happen to them in a manipulative manner to obtain what they want. Maybe she was (poorly) trying to play the "damsel in distress", who knows.

Or, maybe she was just feeling down that night, went out to get a few drinks and ended up spilling her guts to a complete stranger.

I more often see this type of behavior from men.

 

[nancyboy]

maybe. There are people who are obviously making up things for attention. then there are people who rarely say anything. However many of my friends have been through bad things though and talk about it. And since i like to talk and discuss things and am apparently a good listener (yey :mrgreen: ) , maybe i just tend to be the person they talk things over with. Or maybe I just have a lot of ****ed-up friends...

 

[herenow]

Women just talk more in general, and we have less walls/reservations. I think anyone...regardless of gender... who is a blab-o-holic.. is just plain self-centered!