You didn't answer the question, little one.
That's what I'm doing. I'm picturing a situation where, for years, I've wanted a surgery to help bring my body more in line with how I'd like it to look, but I'm being told no, by someone who thinks he knows my mind better than I do. That's certainly not a position I'd ever want to be in. How about you?
So, since I wouldn't want someone else doing that to me, the golden rule says I shouldn't be doing it to others.... at least without some strong evidence to support the idea they really don't know their own minds. I haven't seen such evidence.
That's EXACTLY what you're dead set on. Your notion of virtue is a very odd one, but you certainly see yourself as behaving virtuously here, and desperately wish we saw it the same way.
I understand you want to be able to tell others what they can and can't talk about, just as you want to be able to tell them what they can and can't do with their own bodies. But, I do not give you that power. If you don't want to hear me talk about ethics, you can avoid reading what I write. It's YOUR job to protect your delicate feelings, not mine.