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I don't agree with "disposing" of children's (usable) property for most offenses I've seen and/or heard parents doing so for. That is not a just punishment for the vast majority of things any minor does. You wouldn't take your wife's/husband's property would you and sell it or throw it away because of some "infraction" she/he committed? Would she/he take yours and if so, would you believe that to be "just"? Plus, it is extremely wasteful.We will use corporal punishment if the situation warrants, however that has been rare. We have found that just being consistent and known established and enforced boundaries keeps the impulse control issues well controlled. We don't do time outs, we use labor and confiscation. Our children earn the money they use to acquire whatever it is they want that we will allow them to have. This works well because they acquire their luxuries and favored items through the money they earn. They want something they have to earn it. If they are doing labor for us they aint earning money for themselves. If we confiscate their property, we don't normally return it except if they want to earn it back through labor to the household, this presumes the property was not disposed of which we typically do.
Confiscating their property to have them "earn" it back is one thing. Selling it or destroying it, throwing it away is completely different. That doesn't teach children much about responsibility, but rather to not trust others, because those others may take from them and not give it back.